No ones bent here. Whether your a prick or jesus himself you don't belong in the middle of a group of my friends with 20 miles of beach break to choose from. I'm not a big traveller but when I do I take a lessor wave on the fringes and avoid paddling into the middle of a group of people that clearly have their own dynamic worked out, it's common courtesy IMO .
if you travel, don't you think that's what locals of the break you're traveling to think? not sure why it gets you all bent....if people are dropping in or generally acting like pricks, it's one thing. if people are being cordial, don't see what the issue is.