I live on the ocean. Will never move inland, I don't care what "boss" I enter a nuptial with. There is nothing, I repeat nothing, like sitting on your porch before bed and listening to the ocean talk to you as you see the clearest sky you've ever seen and you smell salt water. Well, that is until you see the sun rise on said ocean. Nothing like it. You can waste away to a skeleton and be content with that view. I type this on my phone as I lay on my porch swing that gives me a permanence these beach denizens in front of me dream of but don't realize they can have too. We can have anything we want.
Onto the surfing. I'm a mile from a more than adequate beach break and 30-45 minutes from several more if I get bored of the home break. I've done dawn patrol each day this week and while we are in the summer swell (lack of) there was still a solid 30 minutes of couple footers clean enough to have fun on since I timed the tides right. Wake up, grab board, step into liquid 5-8 minutes later. Eat breakfast, shower, start the rest of your day. By that time, everything else is a bonus. And we haven't even talked about the days it's cranking and you can get out 2-3 times in a day without lost time from driving.
I know what you mean when you talk about commitment. I've gone anywhere for the things I love. When you can bring them into your habitat is when the afterlife becomes an extension of the present.
Try and find a job on the East coast, more waves over here, is it her family or your family, there is a lot of variables here, if its her family ....good luck brother, if its your family you might have a chance, I don't know that's a tough one, I just couldn't see myself driving that much, with that said, living on the East coast and 10 minutes from my home break, it sure is nice to catch some waves after work till dark. Good Luck and hope you find a happy medium.
Go - no one ever said, "Man, I can't believe I moved closer to the beach. What a mistake..."
Let's not get too whimsical, if every dreaming transient "denizen" lived directly on the beach because they wanted to, there'd be no beach left. Not trying to be a gloomy Gus here, but that's the truth. Moving closer to the water, cool, go for it; buying a house right on the beach that's gonna get washed away, not cool IMO.
if you are going to do it now is the time. 1- stay debt free, 2- save some $s, 3-find the job, 4- make the move/learn the area and 5-buy the house.