Try and find a job on the East coast, more waves over here, is it her family or your family, there is a lot of variables here, if its her family ....good luck brother, if its your family you might have a chance, I don't know that's a tough one, I just couldn't see myself driving that much, with that said, living on the East coast and 10 minutes from my home break, it sure is nice to catch some waves after work till dark. Good Luck and hope you find a happy medium.
Go - no one ever said, "Man, I can't believe I moved closer to the beach. What a mistake..."
Let's not get too whimsical, if every dreaming transient "denizen" lived directly on the beach because they wanted to, there'd be no beach left. Not trying to be a gloomy Gus here, but that's the truth. Moving closer to the water, cool, go for it; buying a house right on the beach that's gonna get washed away, not cool IMO.
if you are going to do it now is the time. 1- stay debt free, 2- save some $s, 3-find the job, 4- make the move/learn the area and 5-buy the house.
As for oceanfront washing away, that is a sad reality for many places. I am quite fortunate to be in a spot that it's very unlikely to happen to. Can't ever say "never", though if Sandy and Nemo are good indications, I'm safe.
You can't have it all, but we don't need it all. We can have what we want if our priorities are aligned with our hierarchy of values and we commit to maintaining those priorities to see our wishes through. There are enough larger than life and against all odds stories and examples out there for us to see this is true. Then again, faith is believing in the unseen and your dreams are unseen until they come to pass which they will, lest you fail to maintain faith in yourself.
DPSUP - Don't worry about screwing anything up. Fears are very good at manifesting themselves as reality. Don't fear, and you won't lose. Play to win. Always. Don't play not to lose. What you learn about yourself and the world along the journey of making calculated risks and overcoming adversity is the true gift. The oceanfront view is just a nice added bonus.