Ben Dover? i doubt thats a real street name. But i do know that Seven Presidents Beach is right across from Joline Avenue, Or whatever Route its called
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there is a secret spot in belmar called 18th ave its really empty, you will never find a kook there and its really hard to get to, so that also helps out with the crowds, especially in the summer when everywhere else is crowded.;)
have you considered the fabled point breaks of the upper chesapeake? Hacks Point is uber-consistant and the shoals off of Havre-de-grace are also epic.
yeah kite boarders always know the best spots. Go wherever he tells you.