My wife supports me going on surf trips with my buds. Our arrangement is we take a trip together she gets to pick where and when and after that I can go on all the surf trips I can swing. I get 5 weeks leave a year, so getting time off isn't too hard.
I agree with the guys who have said mixing a surf trip with a couples/wives trip creates - have been on a few of those over the years - not interested in doing that again.
BTW Havasand I have gone on a couple solo trips over the years, found the surf camps make that kind of easy. If you want some company surfing locally shoot me a PM - I live about 5 minutes from you and have a group of friends I have surfed with over the past 20 + years, glad to have you jump in