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  1. #31
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    I guess I'm lucky in some respects, wife will go anywhere as long as there is sand between her toes. Its does get easier the longer your married and sometimes encourage the girl trips to capitalize on future solo surf trips.

    If your wife knows your buds that golf as most avid golfers take trips too without their wife's so use that in your pretext of your desire/necessity for a surf trip. Honey can't do it without ya, play it up, trip together would be wonderful for us but do to limited budget not sure can swing it. If we go together these are our choices and if was able to go solo could stretch it to this level or maybe not a good idea now, show off your puppy dog eyes. Certainly including her speaks volumes from her eyes (he's so wonderful) over dropping a solo trip leaving her out of the equation. So in the meantime keep the dialog going, odds are in your favor most of the time so seek tentative travel plans with your agent for solo as well as both of you. Sometimes just the thought including her can work wonders, better than explaining why you want to go without her and lessens the pay back when you return. Their's always mileage for letting you go solo even when she agrees but the drive can be less bumpy.

  2. #32
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    As long as I don't leave her stranded on the beach by herself for 4 hours straight
    My only issue is with this statement. It would be impossible for me not to commit this sin in the tropics with perfect surf going off in front of me. For that reason I told my wife she would be better off going somewhere else and letting me go away with my friends. That way I can really surf and not always be looking back at the beach wondering at what level her pissed off meter was at. I don't think I have been to the beach in 10 years where I sat on the towel or in a chair for more than 15 minutes without getting up and doing something else. To be honest I don't like going to the beach unless there is surf or the rockfish are running.

  3. #33
    My wife and I have an agreement, as long as she can park her ass on the beach I can go surfing. That said, I have taken surf trips to Costa Rica with and without her. Go solo, you will surf much more. I also have a little side slush fund so I can pay for this out of my pocket, not out of our joint account. She has a fund for her shopping needs so it balances out. Also explain to her that you are a better person after you surf and will come back in a better frame of mind. That all being said, Witches Rock Suft Camp in Tamarindo is a great solo spot. I once went in a big group(not my doing) but ended up befriending this guy who went solo and we've been mates ever since.

    The problem with taking the wife is that she now wants to go back, and rather than me surf all 7 days, she wants to see other stuff. Problem was she had too good of a time. Perhaps you can go with her and her sister or friend. Then they can do what ever they want during the day, and you surf your brains out, then rendezvous at night.

  4. #34
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zippy View Post
    My only issue is with this statement. It would be impossible for me not to commit this sin in the tropics with perfect surf going off in front of me. For that reason I told my wife she would be better off going somewhere else and letting me go away with my friends. That way I can really surf and not always be looking back at the beach wondering at what level her pissed off meter was at. I don't think I have been to the beach in 10 years where I sat on the towel or in a chair for more than 15 minutes without getting up and doing something else. To be honest I don't like going to the beach unless there is surf or the rockfish are running.
    I'm just like you man, i prefer being out there for hours and hours, and I hate sitting still on the beach for more than a minute but alll I have to do to keep her happy is paddle in for a 10 minute breather, and then i'm back in the water for another couple hours, but if i stay out for 3-4 straight hours i start getting "the look" when i return finally. Just gotta let her know you are thinking about her, and back in the water you go...

  5. #35
    Married twenty years. Bottom line, surf trips + family/couple trips don't mix and often end with everyone feeling frustrated. If it is firing, you want to be out as long as you can paddle. If you try to be nice and adjust your surf time to family needs, you will be staring longingly out at the surf and ignoring your family anyways. (at least that is what I inevitably do). Either way you lose.
    My solution: encourage the wife to take her own solo or girlfriend trips while you tend the homestead. Mine takes a regular camping/hiking trip with a girlfriend in some beautiful location most years and comes back stoked. Then I get my own ski or surf getaway guilt free. Absence makes the heart grow fonder...

  6. #36
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    Quote Originally Posted by Juliaep View Post
    So, what's wrong with partying and drinking?
    Partying and drinking leads to decisions you'd otherwise not make if sober or on a trip to explore/surf. Everyone can chime in and talk about the trust thing, but the bottom line is, once partying and drinking is involved, there's no telling on what will happen. It all leads to irrational decisions.

  7. #37
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    Quote Originally Posted by rgnsup View Post
    Partying and drinking leads to decisions you'd otherwise not make if sober or on a trip to explore/surf. Everyone can chime in and talk about the trust thing, but the bottom line is, once partying and drinking is involved, there's no telling on what will happen. It all leads to irrational decisions.
    I thought you were referring to your wife and her partying and drinking while you're out surfing

  8. #38
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    our wives encouraged us to go when we told them,but,we couldn't do it and turned the mommy van around before we got out of nj.my buddy and i agreed we couldn't enjoy ourselves without them.gonna try again this summer,though.i have a plan.they want us to go.

  9. #39
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bronze Whaler View Post
    This profession still exists? Are you booking a seniors only cruise to Alaska or rivers of Europe cruise? I think we just figured out why you accounted $3,000 bucks for the expense!
    You're right I'm probably accounting for more $$$ than it's gonna cost but that's my budget and spending money for food/beer/presents for the girls I will buy etc. I've done the treehouse in the middle of the jungle thing, too. Not really proficient at traveling because I don't do a lot of it. Most of the locales I've been fortunate enough to surf I've lived there. All the more reason to take the trip. Everyone's input is spot on.

  10. #40
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    Quote Originally Posted by Juliaep View Post
    I thought you were referring to your wife and her partying and drinking while you're out surfing
    Haha, I don't have a wife.