Don't worry Okie, as a woman lifting weights WON'T bulk you up. Rule of thumb is it takes at least 3 weeks to feel it (clothing fit) and 6 to see it. I'm speaking in generalities here. For some reason some women have this misconception that using weights heavier than the 10lb dumbbells will turn them into She-Hulks within a month. Not true! Squats, Deadlifts, Bench & Overhead Presses are the key to building overall strength and muslce tone if you're a beginner. These are all generalities here of course.
Mine is a 3 day Push/Pull/Leg split routine with a break from lifting every-other day. After lifting on MWF I swim for roughly 15mins doing at least 350meters. On the weekends I do yoga and stretch.