Well young dude, 5-6 hours away from the ocean sure puts a cramp in your surf style. That will make it hard to surf even on the weekends. If she is "the one" and you move inland to mountains (so you can snowboard), then it could be worth it. I am not so young, and have had several girlfriends that I thought could be that special girl that didn't work out. Whatever you decide DO NOT RUSH IN! Take your time and think it out. Maybe even go long distance relationship style for a few months and see how you feel. Moving in with a chick is a game changer. Make SURE you are ready.
Personally, I would choose the ocean over the girl. Choose surfing with Bros before moving in with H**s (kidding)
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There is more to life then surfing, hard to believe but true. I moved 1.5 hrs from the beach and found mountain biking, not the same but keeps you fit (fitter than surfing on East Coast) and there is also kayaking and snowboarding. Besides being sure she is worth it be sure you can find good work so you can afford to make those occasional trips to the beach and find another fix besides surfing.
Aug 8, 2012, 05:18 PM #13Senior Member
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A buddy of mine once said "girls are for beats til' you get where ya need to be"
Or...read my rant
It's your life, however, works slow so here I go. I thought I had the girl. I lived 2 hours from the coast and moved to the water. We had dated for a while, I got a house and we've split. She didn't get any of my stuff, but in the meantime I took up surfing (despite its not a great surfing beach). I wouldn't give up surfing. I skateboarded inland all the time. Surf dude. It'll literally save your tailbone. Injuries I sustained from skating do not hurt any more. A wave is a liquid mini ramp and you can skate at the beach (in more ways than one). More choices. As for girls, I would recommend she move to the coast. You will know if she is "the girl" if the beach does not corrupt her. Just saying. Life is full of tests. She wants to test you? No sir! Test her! Go Neanderthal and drag her by the hair to live at the beach if you truly care for her. Only if you move to the mountains where you can snowboard will it be worth it. Nothing beats the water IMO.
Aug 8, 2012, 05:19 PM #14
what tommy said it true. anything over 3 hours would be out of the question. relationships are a two-way street and she needs to understand your surfing passion.
Aug 8, 2012, 05:47 PM #15
the real question is would she move to the ocean for you... if no... then no. There is no shortage of hot chicks or a-hole dudes... really all you gotta do is be sightly less of an a-hole to land a good one...hell with all the fat arses that sit on the couch or in cubicles all day...you don't even have to be that good looking anymore .. just surfing you're already fitness guru compared to most dudes.
Aug 8, 2012, 05:55 PM #16Senior Member
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Bro, do yourself a favor and find a girl that would never want to take you away from what you love...stick with the ocean. Believe me there are soooo many girls out there that will feel like the "one"
Aug 8, 2012, 05:56 PM #17
No. Tell her to move to the ocean instead, she can learn how to surf. If she’s in college and you’re both really in love, there are schools by the ocean. If she has a great job, she can find another one. Money, career, family; all are good reasons to move away. Bettering your circumstances or your lives can be justified, that’s part of the game of Life. What you’re talking about sounds like a wonderful way to end up resenting the girl and resentment is a relationship killer. Have you ever moved away from the ocean before? Do you know what it’s like to dream about surfing almost every night for days, weeks, months? After about a year the dreams aren’t quite as frequent I’ve found. Until you go on a good surf trip, in which case they start right back up.
Then again, I don’t know about you or your circumstances, maybe this girl is more important to you than the ocean and surfing; but I need to surf like I need to get laid. I can live without both, but when one or the other is missing it directly affects my psyche, I become a grumpy S.O.B. and no fun to be around. Maybe, you don’t NEED surfing like I do; but then, that’s why my life is setup so that as long as the waves and the wife agree, neither is ever an issue. It doesn’t take too much to keep me happy; but I know what it does take and if you can swing it and circumstances allow, do what makes you happy. If you’re happy, she’ll be happy and when she’s happy, well, you’ll be happier. Misery works the same way.
I spent so many days with you,
So many nights, it’s nice.
I wanted you to be my only wife.
We didn’t make it, I couldn’t take it.
I tried to square up, it’s too hard,
I couldn’t fake it.
And now I see why, since I was knee high,
I swore to live and die by the P I.
And I’m stayin’ true, born in this game and it’s payin’ too.
I wish I could’ve stayed with you,
but it’s over.
I love you and I still care,
We can kick it anytime, but I’m still a player.
Damn you got that look I like.
I tried to settle down,
It felt like you stole my life.
~ Too $hort
I did it. Moved 6 hours from the beach, for about 6 years. Then i got a good job and we moved back. Now I am about an hour and a half away. She was definately worth it! But thats my story, not yours.
Aug 8, 2012, 06:01 PM #19
If you need to ask on an internet forum then, no. If she was worth it you wouldn't be questioning your decision.
Aug 8, 2012, 06:08 PM #20