If you don't know how to earn respect on an internet forum I fear for your regular social interactions. I fear for the people that may have to interact with you more. Seeing a 33 year old man crying like a grom has got to be awkward and your inability to take any constructive criticism via the internet cannot bode well for face to face interactions.
My recommendations are quite good if I do say so myself. As far as life coaching goes... I haven't really thought about it but I assume someone in your situation could gain some valuable knowledge. PM me if you're really interested in some life coaching.
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Thread: Close Calls
May 8, 2013, 08:28 PM #93
May 8, 2013, 08:28 PM #94
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May 8, 2013, 08:42 PM #96Member
- Join Date
- Jul 2012
This seems like a good opportunity for you to consider why you are so amped up about surfing that you would risk your life and the life of your friend like that. I would liken it to almost ODing on a drug. It was awesome, then you did a little more and a little more and then too much. You got lucky. The lessons are obvious and you don't need us to tell you.
May 8, 2013, 08:50 PM #97
Maybe you have a good addiction counselor you can refer me to. Or better yet, be my addiction counselor! Wow. In 10 minutes I got a new life coach and a rehab therapist. I'll have to but a lottery ticket tonight.
May 8, 2013, 08:52 PM #98
May 8, 2013, 08:55 PM #99
Seriously though, Emass, I feel like you're getting pretty worked up on this. It's an internet forum. Relax. You don't have to "win" against any poster who says anything that could be construed as even remotely negative towards you. You've repeatedly stated you found several answers to be helpful and what you were looking for. Like any internet forum, wade through the BS and take what you will from it.
Last edited by newenglandflatness; May 8, 2013 at 09:00 PM.
May 8, 2013, 09:04 PM #100
- Join Date
- Jan 2009
- Hilton Head Island - OB, SD
In the original poster defense, I think most of us have made some bad choices when “teaching” or even surfing with different people. Disclaimer: I have never attempted to teach someone how to surf next to a jetty on a decent sized day with a lot of current. On the other hand, I can name a dozen times that I have “tricked” or “begged” some of my “surfer” friends to paddle out with me in conditions that they had no business being in. Granted, they weren’t “beginners”, but they were used to surfing chest high days in the summer and some pretty mellow head high days out on the reefs. In order to not go out solo on huge days, many a times have I convinced buddies to paddle out. Most times, I look back to the beach and they never made it out, so that took care of itself. But there is one pretty epic time that I paddled out at Peskys with 3 surfers and I would call them “average at best”. 2 of them were marines, hell bent on not wussing out and the other was my best friend, who was a good enough surfer to make it out alive and get a wave or two… It was solid 8-10 foot peskys (and for the record, it can only hold about 8 feet max and then you have to find a more outer reef down the road because it breaks in very close to the cliffs and rocks)… The current and swell was so big that all three of them didn’t make it out and were actually caught in the impact zone for 5 minutes because they thought they saw a clearing in the sets and scraped out, and then the sets came and they were still inside but over a half mile out to sea. Anyway, long story short is that they all washed into the rocks up by Santa Cruz Avenue and one guy ended up all the way at the southside of the OB pier over a mile away…. A couple dings…. None of them caught waves, but were never in any real life threatening danger. Just a serious gut check. They just got slammed into rocks that are not a natural exit point from the water…. I only got 2 waves that session anyway cause conditions were very sketchy and the second wave I took because I needed a ride in because the sh** was firing all over the place. Funny on the one hand, but seriously shook them on the other hand… Every time after that, my best friend would suit up, go to the beach with me, leash up and when the surf was too big, he would just back out before the paddle out… I never pressed him after that. I just said, alright at least make yourself useful and operate thing camera.