You can't have it all, but we don't need it all. We can have what we want if our priorities are aligned with our hierarchy of values and we commit to maintaining those priorities to see our wishes through. There are enough larger than life and against all odds stories and examples out there for us to see this is true. Then again, faith is believing in the unseen and your dreams are unseen until they come to pass which they will, lest you fail to maintain faith in yourself.
DPSUP - Don't worry about screwing anything up. Fears are very good at manifesting themselves as reality. Don't fear, and you won't lose. Play to win. Always. Don't play not to lose. What you learn about yourself and the world along the journey of making calculated risks and overcoming adversity is the true gift. The oceanfront view is just a nice added bonus.
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Thread: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Jun 19, 2013, 09:57 PM #31
Jun 19, 2013, 09:59 PM #32
Tough call when family is involved.When parents get old it's nice to be close by to give them a hand.Another thing is whether you guys Like your job.Most people I know hate their job.As much as I love to surf,making sure we have a roof over our head is first.My best advice is listen to your wife.A happy wife is a happy life.
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Jun 19, 2013, 10:16 PM #35Senior Member
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The fact that you're asking tells me that you're not sure and are very comfortable with your current situation.
Life isn't about sitting in your comfort zone , it's a journey . The best part about being where I am ( really close to the beach ) 50 years old ish and debt free is that I have had to pass on a few luxuries. While my friends were out buying everything in sight toys, boards, boats, bigger boats and more toys , I kept my eye on the prize .
The prize is being where I'm at and doing what I do and planning the next chapter. The best part of getting to where you want to be isn't just getting there it's the journey and all the cool things that happen along the way.
Stop thinking about how much money you make and learn to want what you already have.
Have a great journey Bro!
Jun 19, 2013, 10:26 PM #36Junior Member
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- Jul 2012
each man has to make his own decision as to what is best for him/herself. I made the choice to move away from the beach to the great city of Philadelphia for a higher paying job. When I turned 30, I felt some internal pressure to get a higher paying job/settle down, etc. After moving, there was a honeymoon period where i did enjoy all of the new cultural opportunities that the city offered. the beach did factor into the decision (heavily) as I chose a job in Philly as opposed to Phoenix based on proximity to the beach. When the honeymoon of the move wore off, it was as if I had lost my best friend. I witnessed myself become easily agitated, had an increase loss of focus, and have been generally unhappy for the past year and a half. Recently caught some fun ones during the Andrea swell (VA) and watched my mentality take a complete 180. The salt water is my therapy for life (fishing, surfing, etc.) Living near the water means everything to me, and I realized that the city was eating away my soul. I have been putting out resumes and all of them have been based on location and proximity to the beach. I was fortunate enough to find a new job (for substantially lower pay) near the ocean. Didn't take much thinking to realize that I needed to make the change for my own personal well-being. Money isn't everything and I hold faith that one day I will find the right set up; As for now, being out of the city and 10 mins to the beach is enough for me.
Jun 19, 2013, 10:32 PM #37
At this point, she sees it as more of a selfish move due to me being the one who benefits the most, while she really gets nothing out of it other than making me happy and helping me realize MY dream. Money isn't really my concern either, not really thinking about it like that, as we aren't rich by any stretch of the imagination, not even close, but making enough to survive and have a little left over to still be able to take a vacation here and there would be nice. If we could manage that I think we could come to an agreement.
Jun 19, 2013, 10:34 PM #38
Jun 20, 2013, 12:39 AM #39
Thank you everybody for the responses and keeping on topic. I now know what I gotta do, I had an idea before but wanted to see if what I'm wanting to do is selfish and too risky or if it's worth everything it would take to make it happen. It won't be tomorrow or anything but the process is underway. Any other suggestions regarding jobs, relocating, etc. are welcomed.
Jun 20, 2013, 12:49 AM #40
The introspective reading is very good. I could give you several titles that have been difference makers for me. In the end, it's all repetitive affirmations. Nothing we ever need to know is that complex, we just tend to forget to remember it!
Tons of good statements and frames of mind on this thread. Props to you for putting yourself out there on the pedestal for honest feedback that everyone seems to be giving in the right ways.
A couple of things that resonate with me that I've heard so far:
- Family. It's always first. Without them we are nothing.
- The good wife. If you got one, and she is the right one, she is your strength. It's a team decision from that point. If you don't have one, don't fill the void with the wrong one, because the one you want is waiting for you to become strong enough for her.
- Wherever you go, there you are. People migrate to what they need. Sometimes we have no clue that we arrived at the destination we've been dying to get to. It just sometimes looks completely different than what we envisioned. Don't let that filet mignon go bad while you sit there pining away for that 80% lean burger.