There's been some good thought already and I can only refine and share from my experience. First, I've found that enlisting and trusting in divine providence is an important factor, and has worked for me. Rightly said by you, "but it's going to take a bit more than praying, wishing, and wanting, it's going to take a huge effort." I think what is critical is establishing your work situation. I don't know what field your in, or what career path you envision, but it's never a bad idea to continue to develop and embellish your skill set. Along the way, even though I have a degree, I've taken some courses at the local community college or online to open more doors for employment. If you could get a "remote" work situation, that is would be sweet, but is does take discipline.It even says in the good book "Prepare your work outside; get everything ready for yourself in the field, and after that build your house", so establishing your means or provision in the place you will dwell is a priority. So, hopefully you can establish a strategy and plan to move forward to your goals. It's always good to think about what you'd like to be doing in 5 years, 10 years, etc. If you don't, you know the saying "Aim at nothing, you'll be sure to hit it."if you are going to do it now is the time. 1- stay debt free, 2- save some $s, 3-find the job, 4- make the move/learn the area and 5-buy the house.
I also think that you have a great value and priority in maintaining consensus with your beloved. When the "two became one flesh", that was also a special knitting of mind and spirit, and endeavoring to maintain that unity, although it can be a challenge at times, has great reward. Likewise, if you have good family ties, which it sounds like you do, they too are important to consider and maintain, as they are special.
I had a situation earlier in my life where I had to pick up and move, and it required "letting go of some comforts" and was very challenging, but often doing the right thing is initially the hard thing, and many things did not "add up on paper", but ultimately it worked out. Looking back on the journey, all I can say is "wow" and I would have never imagined how things have worked out, and I know that grace was upon me. The important thing is that I had to make sure my heart and motivations were pure and undivided before I moved forward. I suppose a surfing metaphor might apply such as, "being all in before taking challenging drop." You will figure it out because you are humbly asking the right questions and "searching out the matter", which is wise.
All the best and keep moving forward in Aloha!