Now I'm sure I'll get insulted by SUP again, but I'm sure Freud would agree with me. Who would really ax strangers on an internet site about major life decisions? Really, have you seen some of the questions and things some people say on here?
Now this, and Freud would agree with me, suggests that one is looking for long sought-after attention that they didn't receive from their mother.
Also, it exemplifies a need to belong, and be part of a group, which manifests from subconscious memories of sibling rivalries and not feeling as much a "part" of the nu - cu -lar family as his brother and sister. I'm sure Freud would agree.
Also, and Freud would agree, that SUP is looking for approval. I would not be surprised that this whole "moving" question isn't even on-the-table. It's not even being formally considered in the SUP household.
Please note that SUP never mentioned his dog's feelings aboot moving. The dog should be the foremost thought in SUP's mind, but he is racked with Oedipus Complex.....a whole lot of Oedipus Complex which prevents him from prioritizing things correctly.
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Thread: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Jun 21, 2013, 12:45 AM #92
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Jun 21, 2013, 05:21 AM #95
SUPper it's all good, this thread can stay on track. In a community of typical dysfunction this thread is very high-functioning.
PB&J, you know you're my boy now that we've choked it out and cleared space in the garage for karate and so many other activities. Gotta say though that the SUPmeister needs to be given a break here as he's humbly coming to this tree of trust in a statement to the members that he values their opinions. Freud has some gems and is a keeper but let's not forget the teachings of Carl "Forever" Jung just because of his schism with his mentor Sigmund. I, personally, think its preposterous that Jung disagreed that we are all driven by the nookie, but he's on point with a lot of other things. I think you're taking a perspective on SUPster's plight here similar to what Schopenhaeur would and perhaps Nietzsche would tell him to enact his master morality. Whether or not SUPsmcgee is Oedipal to the core, his lady girl is way Electra. You know this. And if the canine in question is a Hiltonesque 20 pounds or less, it gets no voice. Lucky to be spared its life at that paltry weight. Now a pit/husky/mastif mongrel, I want to hear what that beast's got to say.
All Greek aside, I think it's a good thing to come on here and ask meaning of life questions. After all, we ask each other what board to ride and that's a certain matter of life and death. Family loves us, but even they have hidden agendas for what they want our choices to be. We are all bound by a common thread or two of what we love and this sport () has a lot more influence on who we are and what we share than sportsmen in other sports (badminton, quidditch, baseball, etc.). Honestly, you're getting third-party, relatively unbiased advice from people with all different helpful perspectives and backgrounds including those that refer to themselves as third-parties (Gruvi). If you think otherwise, go ask family and friends or anyone else dependent or connected to your life and see their lens of opinion guided by how your choice will affect them. CONFLICT OF INTEREST.
Now, the ideal broad to be asking to pack up and move to the coast is Hindu and large but if you roll with her, there's a good chance she's already turned the evolutionary tables and dragged you by your mullet to the beach herself, giving you the ultimatum that if the next 23-footer isn't shredded without fail then that's the end of you.
SUPs.com - sounds like you've carefully considered the variety of thoughtful perspectives you've been given here and started proper communication with your teammate, who happens to be on board or at least open to discussing what's best for the team. Keep it up. Now ditch the raft and start shredding like NJ on a thruster
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Jun 21, 2013, 12:56 PM #96
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Jun 21, 2013, 03:04 PM #99
if you are going to do it now is the time. 1- stay debt free, 2- save some $s, 3-find the job, 4- make the move/learn the area and 5-buy the house.
I also think that you have a great value and priority in maintaining consensus with your beloved. When the "two became one flesh", that was also a special knitting of mind and spirit, and endeavoring to maintain that unity, although it can be a challenge at times, has great reward. Likewise, if you have good family ties, which it sounds like you do, they too are important to consider and maintain, as they are special.
I had a situation earlier in my life where I had to pick up and move, and it required "letting go of some comforts" and was very challenging, but often doing the right thing is initially the hard thing, and many things did not "add up on paper", but ultimately it worked out. Looking back on the journey, all I can say is "wow" and I would have never imagined how things have worked out, and I know that grace was upon me. The important thing is that I had to make sure my heart and motivations were pure and undivided before I moved forward. I suppose a surfing metaphor might apply such as, "being all in before taking challenging drop." You will figure it out because you are humbly asking the right questions and "searching out the matter", which is wise.
All the best and keep moving forward in Aloha!
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