DPSup - I was the same situation as you about 11 years ago. My girlfriend (now wife) and I were living an hour inland. I was getting in plenty of surf because when you have no kids you can disappear for 3-4 hours and the long drive is no big deal (I also split winter rentals from Sept. to May some years giving me a crash pad near the beach). But I knew I wanted to be closer to the beach, largely because I knew once kids came along I'd rarely surf unless I was closer.
What I did was this: She and I researched the hell out of the real estate market, took a lot of day trips to different towns. We found a town that had a lots of what she wanted - a good arts scene, people who spoke Spanish like her and a place she fell in love with. Your wife has to love the place you move to. It was a compromise - we're not on the beach and it's not the town that was my first choice. But it's 20 minutes from the beach and it works.
One other piece of advice - if you can stay close the family, do it. I nearly moved to CA about 15 years ago but I stayed because I had two little nephews and knew my parents were getting old. It's been worth all the waves in the world staying close to them. If you can surf dawn patrol and then get to grandma's for Sunday dinner, that's the sweet spot, my friend. I will continue to pass up job offers and promotions to keep this setup as long as I can.
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Thread: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Jun 20, 2013, 02:10 AM #51Senior Member
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If you come on a surfing forum and ask everyone whether you should move closer to the surf I bet I can tell you how people will answer.
Didn't you just get married? It seems to me you need to be discussing this with your wife.
Sounds obvious to me you want to move closer, otherwise why ask the question - how you work this out with your wife is what marriage is about. I know I would be asking my wife what she thought, what she wanted and how she felt about the options.
Jun 20, 2013, 02:22 AM #53
J-ville has unreal foreclosures and consistent (for east coast) surf that only gets better as you travel south (as you likely already know). Just bought a 4 bedroom two car garage 230K house for 160K (there's at least at 6 more similar situations in the surrounding streets)... of course had to borrow another 8k and tax refund for renovations but on the plus I am 6 miles from Jax Pier and x2 to Poles and 20 minutes or so from North Jetty... between the three I begin or end more days than not with a surf or body surf (although consistent wave size drops June-July & Jan.- Feb. and the occasional extended flat spell the rest of the year while not epic by world standards is rippable enough to make you pretty complacent). Lived inland once made me fat and cranky...will never do it again
Jun 20, 2013, 06:01 AM #54
Although you're married, you still have a lot of freedom and can afford to to take some risk. You're young, have no kids, don't own a house, and not yet "trapped". Once these factors start to change, your freedom will be reduced. What are your priorities in life? Make a list. What are the trade-offs? Is surfing really the number one consideration? How important and how much do you like your current job? Do you live to work or work to live?
In the end, this is a joint decision between you and your wife.
Find a gig and go go go. Think nationally too. PR or Cali wouldn't suck. Nothing worthwhile is easy.
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