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  1. #51
    What's up DP? Tell that feline of yours to start packing her bags.

    I hope the trees are still beautiful in Florida. Yes, those trees.

    Say "hey" to Revis for me. On your way out, of course.

  2. #52
    DPSup - I was the same situation as you about 11 years ago. My girlfriend (now wife) and I were living an hour inland. I was getting in plenty of surf because when you have no kids you can disappear for 3-4 hours and the long drive is no big deal (I also split winter rentals from Sept. to May some years giving me a crash pad near the beach). But I knew I wanted to be closer to the beach, largely because I knew once kids came along I'd rarely surf unless I was closer.

    What I did was this: She and I researched the hell out of the real estate market, took a lot of day trips to different towns. We found a town that had a lots of what she wanted - a good arts scene, people who spoke Spanish like her and a place she fell in love with. Your wife has to love the place you move to. It was a compromise - we're not on the beach and it's not the town that was my first choice. But it's 20 minutes from the beach and it works.

    One other piece of advice - if you can stay close the family, do it. I nearly moved to CA about 15 years ago but I stayed because I had two little nephews and knew my parents were getting old. It's been worth all the waves in the world staying close to them. If you can surf dawn patrol and then get to grandma's for Sunday dinner, that's the sweet spot, my friend. I will continue to pass up job offers and promotions to keep this setup as long as I can.

  3. #53
    If you come on a surfing forum and ask everyone whether you should move closer to the surf I bet I can tell you how people will answer.

    Didn't you just get married? It seems to me you need to be discussing this with your wife.
    Sounds obvious to me you want to move closer, otherwise why ask the question - how you work this out with your wife is what marriage is about. I know I would be asking my wife what she thought, what she wanted and how she felt about the options.

    Good luck
    Jim

  4. #54
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    J-ville has unreal foreclosures and consistent (for east coast) surf that only gets better as you travel south (as you likely already know). Just bought a 4 bedroom two car garage 230K house for 160K (there's at least at 6 more similar situations in the surrounding streets)... of course had to borrow another 8k and tax refund for renovations but on the plus I am 6 miles from Jax Pier and x2 to Poles and 20 minutes or so from North Jetty... between the three I begin or end more days than not with a surf or body surf (although consistent wave size drops June-July & Jan.- Feb. and the occasional extended flat spell the rest of the year while not epic by world standards is rippable enough to make you pretty complacent). Lived inland once made me fat and cranky...will never do it again

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    Although you're married, you still have a lot of freedom and can afford to to take some risk. You're young, have no kids, don't own a house, and not yet "trapped". Once these factors start to change, your freedom will be reduced. What are your priorities in life? Make a list. What are the trade-offs? Is surfing really the number one consideration? How important and how much do you like your current job? Do you live to work or work to live?
    In the end, this is a joint decision between you and your wife.

  6. #56
    Find a gig and go go go. Think nationally too. PR or Cali wouldn't suck. Nothing worthwhile is easy.

  7. #57
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    Quote Originally Posted by dlrouen View Post
    What's up DP? Tell that feline of yours to start packing her bags.

    I hope the trees are still beautiful in Florida. Yes, those trees.

    Say "hey" to Revis for me. On your way out, of course.
    What up brotha, the trees are green and fluffy as ever.

  8. #58
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    Quote Originally Posted by ragdolling View Post
    DPSup - I was the same situation as you about 11 years ago. My girlfriend (now wife) and I were living an hour inland. I was getting in plenty of surf because when you have no kids you can disappear for 3-4 hours and the long drive is no big deal (I also split winter rentals from Sept. to May some years giving me a crash pad near the beach). But I knew I wanted to be closer to the beach, largely because I knew once kids came along I'd rarely surf unless I was closer.

    What I did was this: She and I researched the hell out of the real estate market, took a lot of day trips to different towns. We found a town that had a lots of what she wanted - a good arts scene, people who spoke Spanish like her and a place she fell in love with. Your wife has to love the place you move to. It was a compromise - we're not on the beach and it's not the town that was my first choice. But it's 20 minutes from the beach and it works.

    One other piece of advice - if you can stay close the family, do it. I nearly moved to CA about 15 years ago but I stayed because I had two little nephews and knew my parents were getting old. It's been worth all the waves in the world staying close to them. If you can surf dawn patrol and then get to grandma's for Sunday dinner, that's the sweet spot, my friend. I will continue to pass up job offers and promotions to keep this setup as long as I can.
    I appreciate you sharing that, that does sound like a good way to go about it, we've discussed this many of times already and it usually goes something like how you ended up doing it. Compromise is definitely the key, chances are we won't land directly on the beach, but probably just over the bridge, she has a fear of losing everything in a storm, so that's probably as close as I can get her to go most likely. I don't mind a 5-10 minute drive to the water, i'll live with that for sure...

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    Quote Originally Posted by JTS View Post
    If you come on a surfing forum and ask everyone whether you should move closer to the surf I bet I can tell you how people will answer.

    Didn't you just get married? It seems to me you need to be discussing this with your wife.
    Sounds obvious to me you want to move closer, otherwise why ask the question - how you work this out with your wife is what marriage is about. I know I would be asking my wife what she thought, what she wanted and how she felt about the options.

    Good luck
    Jim
    Thanks for the advise Jim. I actually have had this discussion many a times with my wife, so it's not like this is where I started, but I get what you're saying. I'm just getting feedback from other like minded people. She knows where I stand on the topic, which is that I'm ready to make the move when the fincances are in check and there is a job waiting. I know where she currently stands, which is she's open to compromise as long as she likes the area we move to and there is enough for her to do, as well as having jobs lined up. I believe it's a matter of finding the right job in the right area and she'll be down. Just gotta start making more of an effort to get those pieces into place really.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stranded in Smithfield View Post
    J-ville has unreal foreclosures and consistent (for east coast) surf that only gets better as you travel south (as you likely already know). Just bought a 4 bedroom two car garage 230K house for 160K (there's at least at 6 more similar situations in the surrounding streets)... of course had to borrow another 8k and tax refund for renovations but on the plus I am 6 miles from Jax Pier and x2 to Poles and 20 minutes or so from North Jetty... between the three I begin or end more days than not with a surf or body surf (although consistent wave size drops June-July & Jan.- Feb. and the occasional extended flat spell the rest of the year while not epic by world standards is rippable enough to make you pretty complacent). Lived inland once made me fat and cranky...will never do it again
    That's a good deal you got there, I hope to find something similar one day soon. My guess is we'll probably have to rent for a short time while we find something we really want to buy, but who knows. I wouldn't mind JAX but not sure she'll want to consider it, last time we were there it wasn't her cup of tea, but that was because we went to a Jags game and she got to see all the polite fans you have up there (like any NFL fans) HAHAHA. I thinking St. Aug down as far South as Melbourne, somewhere in between, and no further West than I-95.