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    Severing ties with parents...

    At what age did you move out of your parent's house? I'm 22 and still live at home, granted, I just graduated college and had been living elsewhere for the past four years, but I feel stuck here. I have a decent paying job doing something that doesn't interest me and I could easily afford to move out, but I'm afraid of losing the oppurtunity to live at home for at least a couple years and save a huge amount of money to put towards a house when the appropriate time comes. My parents are fprtunate and generous enough to pay for a lot of my things (food, cell phone, insurance, etc.) and they aren't pushy about trying to force me out of the house. They are more than happy to have me there.

    The only downside to this plan is... I am completely miserable. All my friends from college live nowhere near me, my girlriend and I ended up breaking up because of the distance, and I have basically no time with work to meet new people. The isolation is killing me. Some of my friends have already moved out and are struggling somewhat financially but seem 10 times happier than I am just to be doing something new and exciting.

    Looking for some wiser-than-Is to offer some perspective or advice

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bill Cosby's nephew View Post
    At what age did you move out of your parent's house? I'm 22 and still live at home, granted, I just graduated college and had been living elsewhere for the past four years, but I feel stuck here. I have a decent paying job doing something that doesn't interest me and I could easily afford to move out, but I'm afraid of losing the oppurtunity to live at home for at least a couple years and save a huge amount of money to put towards a house when the appropriate time comes. My parents are fprtunate and generous enough to pay for a lot of my things (food, cell phone, insurance, etc.) and they aren't pushy about trying to force me out of the house. They are more than happy to have me there.

    The only downside to this plan is... I am completely miserable. All my friends from college live nowhere near me, my girlriend and I ended up breaking up because of the distance, and I have basically no time with work to meet new people. The isolation is killing me. Some of my friends have already moved out and are struggling somewhat financially but seem 10 times happier than I am just to be doing something new and exciting.

    Looking for some wiser-than-Is to offer some perspective or advice

    Move out. The sooner the better.

    Some of my best times in life were in the years when all of us were battling to make it, usually always broke, it didn't matter much in retrospect, we were too busy laughing & living.

    You come off as intelligent, motivated, educated. Ergo, you'll always make money.
    You can't get time back.
    If you don't like the movie, get up & leave.

    You said it yourself. You're miserable. Break out of your comfort zone. And if the next thing doesn't work, you try something else. And again. The journey is the fun of it.

    One man's humble opinion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yankee View Post
    Move out. The sooner the better.

    Some of my best times in life were in the years when all of us were battling to make it, usually always broke, it didn't matter much in retrospect, we were too busy laughing & living.
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    +1 Never moved back in after college(w/ the exception of a cpl weeks while moving in elsewhere), and I'm still kinda in that mostly broke/battling to make it phase, but I have no regrets and would do it all over again. As far as the money thing, as long as you're getting bills paid and have enough money for year round gear, as long as you're riding waves who the hell needs money? At least that's what I tell myself...a surf trip would be nice but that'll happen one of these days.

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    Maybe your uncle can get you a job in television.

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    And like Zeroevol said, let your parents know how thankful you are, best thing they could here.

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    And people complain that this forum is useless... LMAO! Lil Nephew, enjoy it while you can and be thankful of what you have!! Let your parents know that all the time! Life doesn't always go the way you planned and you never know when you might need a little parental housing! As long as they are okay with you living there and saving money, do it! As far as what age, that really is up you ans when you are ready! Good luck to ya! And by the way, I am by far no expert!

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    2 questions: (1) What is your Degree in? (2) What kind of job do you think you'd enjoy doing?

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    I moved out two months after I turned 18 (i'm 32 now), never looked back. I'm about an hour from the house if I need to swing by for any reason, soon to be 2-3hrs away, but still within driving distance. If you have already saved up a good chunk of change, go ahead and do it if you're really miserable.

    Life is too short to feel that way, never know when the ride is over, so might as well get out on your own and experience it. You'll find out that life isn't so easy on your own, but you'll grow from it and get stronger. If you want to be able to bag as much tang as you possibly can, then that's the only way to go my man, lots of chicks in the 18-25 range that will go home with you simply because you have one....

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    It's always fun to get advise from perfect strangers. My best guess is your situation would be more tolerable if you got laid once in a while. Try joining a yoga class, and things should work out quite nicely. Namaste young man!

  10. HAHA Oh man welcome to the real world. Guess what, it only gets worse. Stay at home as long as possible and save as much money as possible. ****, stay there until you inherit the house. You are literally voicing what every single kid fresh out of college thinks. You just realized that college was the best its gonna get, and that sucked for everyone. The way I see it you have to paths in life. 1) Move out and go to like Costa Rica and live a humble life of surfing and drinking Imperial on the beach, but you will be living a cheap life and never have a Benz or a trophy wife. 2) Become part of society and start to pay taxes, buy a house, and work until retirement or death ( with some very luxurious surf trips mixed in). Believe it or not you living on your own sounds great till you are eating cup noodles every night, and then you can meet girls because you are poor, and chicks hate poor. Stay home and suck it up.