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  1. #21
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sniffer View Post
    Dude move out! You are 22, you are supposed to struggle and be poor. Find out the hard way, dont be a little pus and live with your mommy. My god this generation is out of control with coddling. What the hell are you doing? Move son...At least thats the advice my Pops gave me and still to this day I appreciate it.
    I'm with Sniffer on this one, from personal experience as well. If your situation resembled 757's, I would suggest you stay put--but still not forever. Plus, it's not like you have to leave town or anything.

    I just feel there are certain things you have to do that include shedding what is comfortable and doing what is difficult. It builds character.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sniffer View Post
    Dude move out! You are 22, you are supposed to struggle and be poor. Find out the hard way, dont be a little pus and live with your mommy. My god this generation is out of control with coddling. What the hell are you doing? Move son...At least thats the advice my Pops gave me and still to this day I appreciate it.
    gotta agree. My son is 16 and he already knows that he is not allowed to move back in. he's going to have to learn the hard lessons of life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aka pumpmaster View Post
    gotta agree. My son is 16 and he already knows that he is not allowed to move back in. he's going to have to learn the hard lessons of life.

    Quote Originally Posted by Erock View Post
    I'm with Sniffer on this one, from personal experience as well. If your situation resembled 757's, I would suggest you stay put--but still not forever. Plus, it's not like you have to leave town or anything.

    I just feel there are certain things you have to do that include shedding what is comfortable and doing what is difficult. It builds character.
    Listen to these guys...

    Just to give you an example of how things can go long term. I moved out at 18, my wife left home at 16, we both made it on our own, had our struggles, but now at 32 we have stable jobs, decent income, nice home (nothing lavish or anything), nice vehicles, and travel to surf and non-surf vacations. We earned all that on our own, with little to NO help from parents after we left. Had many times where I wondered where my next meal was coming from, or if I would have power on when I got home (which sometimes it wasn't), but I figured it out... what that did is It built character as Erock and Pumpmaster suggests. What you'll learn is toughness, how to fight in the real world, and how to "make it".

    Now, take the opposite scenario...

    My wife's OLDER sister, supposively the more responsible one while growing up, the book worm, the nerd, the one who did everything right, stayed at home as long as she could, well into her late twenties, got married, had kids, and then when things didn't work out so well financially, ended up back home with mommy and daddy in their 30's and continued to stay there into their 40's until just recently when they finally got told to get their own place again. They would have stayed there until they died if they had the option. Now in their early to mid 40's are just barely making it... STILL.

    Not saying this is what will happen to you if you stay, but the point is, they didn't learn how to survive in the real world, and therefore they are always going to be looking for help from the parents and can't even provide for their own kids, the grandparents take care of that. It's sad really, all those book smarts, and no street smarts...

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    Man, you parents who are all strict are meany guys....." GET OUT !!!"

    Why have kids if you are going to be so mean? And I can't wait until your kids go, "INTO THE NURSING HOME, POPS." Karma's a b!tch.

    Attention mean parents: This world isn't the same as when you people grew wings. It's completely different. There ain't no jobs and everyone's on heroin.

    Bill Cosby: You do listen to Led Zeppelin, right? That will help.

    Sniffer: Hey, I thought all North East Italians lived with their parents until marriage or they inherited the family home? Even in marriage most Italian parents provide a first house for the kiddos. That's a fact. Like, the ex- mayor of my town bought his teen-aged son his own business because the kid was selling all of the family's possessions on E-bay. And they are totally Italian and live in the most populous Italian area (per capita) in the country. I see it everyday.

    So Bill Cosby take these austere attitudes with a grain of salt. Plus, Pumpmaster is required to be harsh with his "RED" avatar. And after the 1970's, Topher Grace is a failure. So just keep that in mind. What the F is an "avatar" and why do people use the term. It's a friggin picture or a profile picture.......

    Oh if you strict types really want to teach your kids a lesson get them locked-up. They'll learn how to take care of themselves and become resourceful there. They'll learn things like how to primatively create fire to light their banana peels.
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    Dawpatrol, that sounds like my brother. Two years older than me and still lives at home and has no job or degree. That's basically what I don't want to become. I know there is so much more to life than working to buy things that you will never have enough time or freedom to enjoy (like surfboards)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bill Cosby's nephew View Post
    Dawpatrol, that sounds like my brother. Two years older than me and still lives at home and has no job or degree. That's basically what I don't want to become. I know there is so much more to life than working to buy things that you will never have enough time or freedom to enjoy (like surfboards)
    Ya man, don't be that dude. You'll get too comfy being connected to the parenting teet and will be too lazy to fend for yourself, just look at the lion at the local zoo, is he a "real" lion or do you think he would make it in the jungle if released today?

    When you are ready you'll know. Don't rush out today and get a place or anything, unless of course you've saved a few thousand, then go right ahead by all means.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bill Cosby's nephew View Post
    Anyways, to answer some of the questions asked, I graduated from the University of Mary Washignton with a degree in Biology. My grades were good, but not good enough for a profession like doctor or dentist. I currently work as an intermodal terminal manager which is a pretty hard job to get for a guy my age, but I was fortunate enough to be best friends with the son of a trucking executive... I realize I am very fortunate. Everything has been given to me and I have nothing but respect for those of you that worked for everything you have, be that a college education or a good job, etc. I realize my situation is not unique. This forum just seems like a very good resource, with an eclectic range of people from various backgrounds and age ranges, to seek advice on such a topic, as I'm sure several of you have gone through this phase yourselves
    I also got a Biology degree, moved out of my parent's house around 20-21 and worked for a few years in the industry. After a few years I went back and got a Master's which you should consider if you want to up your earning potential. There are all kinds of Bio jobs some even in CA or FL if you apply and look around. Put your head down and grind it out, it will pay off later. Now I'm living in HI with a great job, couldn't be happier.

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    you never learn the important lessons in life the easy way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oipaul View Post
    I also got a Biology degree, moved out of my parent's house around 20-21 and worked for a few years in the industry. After a few years I went back and got a Master's which you should consider if you want to up your earning potential. There are all kinds of Bio jobs some even in CA or FL if you apply and look around. Put your head down and grind it out, it will pay off later. Now I'm living in HI with a great job, couldn't be happier.
    If you don't mind me asking, what did you do and in what years? Times are different now. There aren't as many good oppurtunities for bachelor's degrees anymore. Heck, I had dreams of joining the Coast Guard or Navy but now is not a time they are accepting people into their officer programs. My dad got into Navy OCS with mediocre grades and a history degree. That wouldn't even be considered today

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bill Cosby's nephew View Post
    If you don't mind me asking, what did you do and in what years? Times are different now. There aren't as many good oppurtunities for bachelor's degrees anymore. Heck, I had dreams of joining the Coast Guard or Navy but now is not a time they are accepting people into their officer programs. My dad got into Navy OCS with mediocre grades and a history degree. That wouldn't even be considered today
    I worked for a private lab for a few years and in several research labs for the University of Maryland in the late 90's into the mid-2000s. Look at University job websites for laboratory tech jobs if that's something you are interested in, I also signed up with some scientific temp-hire firms like Kelly Scientific (reputable, should never charge you $) to get my foot in the door at some places. I find it hard to believe you couldn't get into the military with a scientific college degree, have you talked to a recruiter or taken the ASVAB test?
    Last edited by oipaul; Jun 27, 2013 at 08:51 PM. Reason: spelling