Awesome stuff, sounds like most of you guys really got it all figured out! Thanks for some of the advice too! Really cool hearing it from people who have gone through the motions, with the same goal in mind, surf surf surf.
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Thread: What do you guys do?
Sep 26, 2013, 04:33 PM #31
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- Southern California
Sep 26, 2013, 04:34 PM #32
I'll give you the advice I gave my 21yr old. Find out what you want most in life and go for it...her passion is acting, and she's going for that. If your passion is surfing, look for a career and/or location that will let you do that as much as possible. If your passion is something else, then concentrate on that. If you work hard enough at it, it will sort out. And if it doesn't, you'll never look back and wish you tried, or tried harder. The saying "if you love your job you'll never work a day in your life" is true.
Had a friend who was an engineer fresh out of college, had a good job, blah blah blah, but wasn't happy. She wanted to bail and travel the world. Everyone told her not to, except my wife and I. Told her to go for it, you only live once and nothing's holding you back. Eventually she ended up in Maui and has been there ever since. Surfs and fishes all the time and makes as much waiting tables at nice restaurant as she did as an engineer. She's happy now.
Just be prepared to sacrifice and work for whatever you want. When you get old you realize that you really can do whatever you want in this world, it just takes a ton of discipline and effort to get there. And the time really does fly by, don't waste it...seems like yesterday I was graduating college and driving out west on I-90.
A word on the left coast, it's expensive the economy is tough. Not gonna sugar coat it for you, but you may have to scrap and scrounge for a while. But if it's worth it go for it. Only get one ride on this merry-go-round. I tried Seattle for 3 years, but after 3 years of rain and working crap jobs and never having any money I decided NC ain't such a bad place to be. Moved back and met my soul mate, best move I ever made.
Best of luck to you...
Sep 26, 2013, 04:51 PM #33
BTW - Guess I should answer the freaking question. I'm an IT sys admin for a corp in the Raleigh area. Not the best job, not the worst. Pays the bills and most nights I get home in time to see my girls. Not my passion though. We're lucky enough to have good friends in Wilmington that have an open door policy for us, but don't get down near enough and can't catch those early morning or eve weekday sessions. If it weren't for my daughter's school I'd move to Wilmington in a heartbeat. Gotta do what's best for her. I still catch myself looking at classifieds though...
Some more advice "live small". Don't get caught up in trying to out spend, out do, out build, the next guy. Spend as little money on housing as you can. Live in a small house, put your money in the bank and live free. Belongings weigh you down even when your in a place you are happy with.
Sep 26, 2013, 05:21 PM #35
Sep 26, 2013, 05:44 PM #37
If you're lucky you'll do something that you truly LOVE and as a perk, you get paid enough to live. But that isn't the case for most people. If you have a superior talent at something then focus on that and hopefully you'll make a living from it. If you aren't extremely talented at something like that then do your best to find something that allows you enough free time to do the things that you love to do the most, which for most here I would think would be surfing.
Sep 26, 2013, 05:54 PM #38
I've had a ton of jobs and realized that I was never going to make decent money doing something I loved. I had to come the realization that I was either going to make crap $ doing what I liked or good money doing what I did not like...
I ended up getting a sales position at a large medical supply manufacturer... I now make very good money and have the best of both worlds. I make my own schedule and work out of my car. If there's waves I surf... And I can travel as much as I want.
My advice is keep your options open. Try as much as you can until you find the right thing for you.
Oh 34th St., if you are going to the left coast.......forget Southern California.
Have any of y'all read The Grapes of Wrath by that Steinbeck dude. Well, people have been moving there to find golden rays of sunshine and the good life for almost a century. It's filled up, the dream has died. And the "natives" are tired of newcomers. Yeah, they have better waves(who doesn't besides the gulf and great lakes), but you won't get any of them. You ain't getting a set at Swamis or Rincon. Lowers? Malibu? HA !! Dudes, you won't even get a set wave at Leo Carrillo...........
Go to Northern California, Oregon or Washington. I got into an argument with AO/OO aboot Washington vs the east coast - AO claiming Washington sucked and Jersey was b!tchen. Then he posted some Washington pictures and it was 10x better than anything we will ever see at North St. or the 59th St pier. I'll take the adventure of the Pacific Northwest over New Jersey anyday.
Just remember guys it's all in your perceptions, your expectations and your wants/desires. This world is so meaningless if you really stop to think aboot it. Nothing matters. Everybody just views life as they matter. They don't. Chasing paper and material goods may make you 'happy" for a moment, but then the moment's gone. All we doooooo......
Accepting jobs you hate only leads to crack and Kasser's vodka and opiates. Don't let the world define your existence, create your own. Really, this existence doesn't matter. Surfing is one of the only vechicles on this planet worth chasing, and it is one of the few things that let you even begin to undertsand anything. Dogs help, too.
That job could be gone tomorrow; your "pals" come and go; that spouse either gets annoying, boring, or a betrayer; everything you count on to be "normal" and that of which provides homeostasis in your life could be gone in an instance....
Don't hold on....just go with the flow..
Hey, too bad I don't do yoga and that sh!t, huh ?? I could sell this off to a bunch of new age, sissy vegan, wannabe hippies in a second......
And if all else fails you could always become South Jersey's version of "The Ex-Presidents." I get to be Carter......
Sep 26, 2013, 07:15 PM #40
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- Virginia Beach