Crusty can of worms opened. Your buddy almost drowned, his did not. He made a judgement call you did too, ended different didn't it? Now eat your crusty worms 40 yr old grommet!!
Early 30s and my current edition would run circles against your best early 20s version bruddah, downshift a bit there.
At no point did I wish struggle or anything short of stoke upon my brah. Clearly two different judgment calls if making your buddy sweat a hard one is an intention at all. Different outcomes, certainly. Different conditions existed that day, similar to yesterday with the addition of surprise sideshore gusts a few dozen miles per hour.