Sorry to hear about your frustration but wave and swell patterns have alot of factors that can distrupt them. I went out last night hoping for the swell to start in. I could see the swells rolling and breaking over the shipping channel but nothing was making it to land. The swells were out of the south, the wind was out of the south and west so nothing was bringing them in.
Mabe you should find another hobby that will not piss you off so much. Go out and paddle and find some serinity. Sufing not always just about thrashing it and being pissed becasue the swell was not that great or some cook cut you off.