Tricking the kiddies

Wtf does this have to do with surfing? Ask your therapist.

 

ah crud, sorry to hear about that. I had to do the same thing with my boy when he was around 3, but it was a kitten and not a crab (which is even cooler).

We were honest about it, and he took it very well. I don't believe that we ever used the word "death", but explained it in a roundabout manner in which he could wrap his head around it. He was very pragmatic about it, and has grown up that way as well. That being said, our way of handling it may not work the same with your 3-year old daughter.

The other option? Wait until she's asleep, grab the crab and flush it. In the morning, you can feign shock and dismay while frantically looking for Michael Jordan. Then, you offer to get her a new crab that she can name herself. Hopefully, the tears will be few.

Good Luck, and disregard snarky remarks from shart snuffers.

 

I don't have kids, but when I was little my hamster died. Thing is it was Christmas morning, I didn't give an eff. Flush it, then give her a present.

 

they switch shells, so tell her he got too big for his MJ shell and switched to this one.

my dad used to do that to me every summer. I'm the only kid I knew whos hermit lived to be 6

 

Stop playing games with ur kid bro be honest and let her know the truth she will eventually get it or get over it.. You'd be surprise how smart those little buggers are. I have a two year old daughter and i let her know everything thats going on and she really gets it..

 

your doing the right thing. explaining about death concerning the fish you caught or the chicken your eating is one thing. Thats the circle of life. but this is something she won and she loves it. There is just no need to give her that hurt yet.

when my son was that age we had a big domesticated rabbit come into our yard. I think it was a Sandy refugee. Nobody claimed it so we let it live with us and gave her the run of the yard ( great fertilizer). a month later we had nine little bunnies too which was awesome for a two year old to see. i would put her in a hutch at night but sometimes she would stay out if i couldn't catch her. well one night a fox got her( worst sound i ever heard).

So kinda like the velveteen rabbit which we've read, I told my son that the wild bunnies have decided to let Harry the bunny join their tribe and that he looks like them now. So every time we see bunnies in the yard he thinks its Harry coming to say hi.

 

I would tell her it died. Things die, especially small pets like fish, crabs, mice etc. when my sons betta died after three weeks I told him right away. He said where is he and I told him I buried him and showed him the spot. I explained that unlike people small animals have short lives but since they hardly sleep and and are awake and aware for the whole thing their lives feel long to them. He sniffled a little and went back to what he was doing. He was 3 at the time. If you trick her be honest your doing it for yourself not her. She's gonna grow up and figure it out someday and no matter what she says to you about it she will resent it.

 

I cried when I lost my first fish.

 

Pet deaths is God's way of getting us ready for the big losses that will eventually cross our paths.

 

Tell her the truth. Tell her it died. It can't move or think or feel anymore. Have more faith in your daughters sturdiness and ability to bounce back from pain. She is at the age she will start to realize people can die too. That's normal and healthy. She might ask if you'll die and you can tell her "Yes, but not for a very long time, not until you are all grown up, have kids and are a grandma"

 

Was wondering what troubled you recently when you took that week off from the forum...

Yo zach if you want to punk your daughter a bit say MJ was killed and it's because of something she did. If she is currently doing or not doing something she is or is not supposed to do, I'm pretty sure this would eradicate the issue

I look at this tread real quick and was like oh snap Michael Jordan died! Really thought I needed to start watching more news before I saw it was just a crab bro. Glad you're now coming to SI for parental advisory. I suppose your down for some marital advice too so what's about it bro??

Serious note bro, discovery of object impermanence is one of the biggest developmental turning points in a young person 's life. Just look at seldom, he's gonna have ALL sorts of inquisition to the world around him now.

 

Based on the thread title, I was hoping to find FLA CPS here in full pursuit of beezlebub.

 

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Go full black metal on it. Kids love metal.

 

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