Single Dad Surfing on Surfline

damn right, Seldom- it takes a village

 

Seldom, great post, I wish almost every day that my parents or in-laws live close enough to help us out, even just give advice in person.

A kid that age probably woke up before dawn to open presents and was passed out on the couch by 10, so there's a good chance dad was there for the important part.

I like slide 12, I check the surf with my son all the time, he's a bit smaller than that kid but he gets to play in the sand, and I get to talk to him about the ocean and the waves and the shells, and he likes to scream "go!" at paddling surfers and "caw caw" at the seagulls.

I wish the story had more about his parenting, but it's Surfline so I guess that's what you get.

 

Thanks fellers. Family is key man.

sbx the sad thing man is my sister doesn't even realize/appreciate how good she has it...but my niece, she's my little cracker, and she brings a lot of happiness to the fam.

 

Here's a family guy who doesn't seem like such a dooshe:
http://www.theinertia.com/surf/this-and-nothing-else-plumber-builder-lifeguard-big-wave-surfer/

 

I hear ya. In the two cases I referenced the parents (my sister and in-laws) relying on others is a direct result of their own poor decisions. While I agree with you to an extent, in these cases, they could have done better for themselves and their children, but rather, they choose to be lazy and do just enough to get by and let the parents cover their shortfall.

I'm not saying it's easy to be a parent. But when one of the two parents is working and the other is a "stay at home Mom" but they don't have a pot to piss in, then they are living in a fantasy land. If one income isn't getting it done, then the other needs to get to work, this isn't the 50's anymore.

The father in this situation of course is a devout Christian who believes it's the Man's job to provide and the woman's job to raise kids. But guess what... he's barely providing, many times unemployed! So he relies on his parent's in-law to cover him and then turns around and preaches about his wife not going to work and blah blah blah. It's sickening to be around honestly. I could go on and one about this character...

Every situation is different, but many times, it's just the poor choices of people that put themselves in those situations, and for that I have little to no sympathy. Another example, My pill popping nephew and his crack head GF just recently had a child, they broke off the relationship because they are both too immature and strung out to act right, and he just got locked back up in prison for drug abuse and stealing stuff. Guess who gets to take on the responsibility of raising this child? You guessed it...

Now if the parents are doing the very best they can and it's still not working, then by all means, lend a hand. But 99% of the time it's their choices that put them where they are today. People need to take responsibility for their own actions is all i'm getting at. Some do, but most do not.

 

Totally agree this is a NON article about a self obsessed, immature douchey young stoner dad. Underserving of our attention...
"On a normal day I do everything for my son - change him, feed him, bathe him, get him ready. then we go check the waves. if it's good, I'll see if my mom or dad can help out so i can surf." ..guess what genius, that's called bare minimum parenting.. all except the part where you dump your kid off on your parents (who probably worked a lot harder than you!) everyday so you can go surf. Give me a friggun break.. this guy...

 

DP I agree 100%...just kinda used your statement to illustrate mine. It's all about context...and reciprocity within the family.

 

gratitude ss, dont forget gratitude. intention means a lot, if not everything

 

Yes to gratitude! That is exactly what certain people in my fam lack.

 

anyone else notice how dad bought the only 2 meals he ate that day? i'm not single, i don't have a child, and buying that much pre-cooked food would put me over budget. On top of that his rent that close to the beach has got to be in the $1200 range at least, and i didn't see any roommates. there has to be some kind of trust fund or something that surfline is leaving out. either that or surfing pays wayy more than i thought.

 

There is so much missing from the story, it makes it impossible to figure out what's really going on.

 

Cool, wasn't sure if we were agreeing or disagreeing lol, was just giving my take on the situations I see around me. I always hear people tell me how great it is to be a parent and that my wife and I need to hurry up and have some kids, but when I look around I see way too many unhappy parents and even worse... unhappy kids as a result of their circumstances. It's a tough decision. My wife and I are on the fence about it.

 

this is gay.

 

I see your point but I gotta say that it's their own fault if that's how they end up. It's their life and they are behind the wheel of it, not us. If they screw up and squander their money away and don't have a life after surfing then they did it to themselves, sorry.

 

im back people/

didn't see the article,but just wanted to say nick rozsa was a homeless drug addict who turned his life around and became what Kelly slater said "the best freesurfer ever".yea slater said that.regardless the kid rips

 

Welcome back Cep! Was getting ready to assemble a search party to come find you. Where you been yo?

 

He rips and he's there for the kid...that's good. But he's living a pretty charmed life, and Surfline tries to fluff it up to make it seem like he's busting his balls. He's not. He lives at the beach at California: $$$. He's a "professional surfer", but has no other visible means of support than his contest winnings and sponsorships. You can say what you want, but to quote Dire Straits: "That Ain't Workin'".

This story is why I hate Surfline.

I'm sure he's a straightup guy and he's good to his kid, but it's just Hero Worship. I think most Swellies would probably relate more to the guy that knocked up some chick, had a kid, realized his responsibilities, and actually left behind the Surfing World to pursue an actual career to give the kid the best shot at a future. I'm sorry, I just don't see it here.

 

Who the **** cares how the dude chooses to raise his kid, or what career he has while raising his kid. People are so quick to talk **** about what they dont/cant have.

I liked the piece, and I like the fact that people continue to live their life with kids being a part of it.