Life Advise Thread...A Questionne of Ethics

Calmer than you are

 

I also agree with Yankee- LBCrew - CCdog and DP

Seriously- lieing to your family (your wife and your kid) will never pay off and It's kinda selfish if you think about it. How would you like if she lied to you?

Right now- I'm sure your wife also feels like she needs a break and is probably more stressed then you could imagine. Things get slightly better / easier real soon- about 6/8 month mark.

I have seen a lot of friends families begin to hate surfing/ocean due to lies. and kids grow up to be really turned off to surfing cause they think it's more important to their dad then they are....

I would suggest this- since I have a Ph.D. (In 'leash attachment') - that if your questioning it- and it's on your conscience then you should really consider the consequences and do what it right. Your kinda picking a path on how the future will be with surfing and the fam, it's best to start on the right foot

I don't mean to rain on your parade... But it's right think to do...

I would suggest something along the lines of what Yankee and cc dog suggested. A good 2 hour surf in the morning will work wonders, right after your early gig- then spend the day with the family. The surf will probably get junky after 10 am with the summer winds anyways. And they probably will not be able to make it out the door until about 9 or 10 anyways... You know, naps... Feeding ect

My Uncle once told me- "I don't lie. You know why? Cause you gotta be really smart to lie- you have to remember what you told this person ... And that person... And all these stories... It's just not worth it.." The truth is always the best.

 

And yes... Make sure you choose the day wisely!

 

seriously. sounds like you and DP are married.

 

Dude, what is it you are disagree with here? Seriously, i'm not trying to be a d*ck. Let's just get that part straight first. You say I need to admit when I"m wrong. So where am I wrong? What exactly am I wrong about here?

 

I don't even know what he disagrees with to begin with Peajay. He says I need to admit i'm wrong about something, I'm trying to figure out what that something is. I feel like everything we have said here is a matter of opinion. He must think otherwise.

 

exactly. you two sound married.

 

HAHA, I can see how it looks that way.

See LittleRicky, I did it, I admitted someone had a point, see! Take that! HAHA I kid I kid, take it easy LR

 

Your kid-free privilege is showing and that is triggering Lil Ricky.

 

Ain't no real right or wrong, all women are different and will react differently.

What it all comes down to is that we can't give advice because we don't have enough information about Shelldonne's lady.

I think we need pictures to make an informed opinion

 

Second!

 

im going to second that

 

Guys, guys, I get where you all are coming from, I do, I really do. I helped raise my twin nephews. I did a good portion of the parenting, so I understand some of your thoughts, but I choose to think differently.

See, the problem with most of you (not all) that have kids is you think everybody is going to have the same experiences as you. "Oh, you don't understand till you have kids of your own" you will say. And to a degree, you are correct, nothing replaces actual experience with your own kid, but too many of you assume your experiences will be the same for others. I know that's a hard pill to swallow to think someone could do things better or different than you, but I promise you, it's a real possibility. It's called learning from others mistakes. I do a lot of that actually. Why watch people make a mistake, and then turn around do the exact same things as them? Makes no sense.

A very wise and successful man once told me, "watch what the masses do, and then do the opposite". Another thing he told me was "if you do things the way everybody else does, you'll have what everybody else has". This lesson was not just about business / success, but about life in general. I took those lessons to heart. I do a lot of things different than most people I know, and guess what, I live differently than most live. Doesn't make me great, doesn't mean i'm better than any of you, it just means that I live my life by my rules, not by the rules that are imposed upon me by others and their standards. So again, you do you, and I'll do me, what's right for me, may not be right for you, and that's OK.

That's what's great about America, you can live your life however you choose, as long as it's within the confines of the law. We are the architects of our life. If you don't like your circumstances, or how your life is going, then change it! Don't be a victim of your circumstances. Too many people use children as an excuse or a cop-out for too many things. Don't let that happen to you is what i'm saying. Be in control of your life, don't let your life control you.

 

So watcha gonna do?

 

Yeah, good thread topic, solid debate was had, what's the verdict?

No, i'm not right, i'm just not wrong. Nobody is right / wrong, haven't you been paying attention?

 

Spoken like a true snake, stank.
I would tell your wife, you are going surfing FIRST, THEN say you will come to get her after and do want she would like. You get the morning, she gets the afternoon. You will both be happy. I have done that for 43 years and it was ALWAYS well met by Mrs Cuda.
Now, having said that, you know your Mrs Seldom, I do not, so you know what to expect better tan all of us.
just opinion.

 

Same here, I usually end up surfing 3hrs in the morning and then we go shopping where she wants to go for the rest of the day, throw in a meal and some drinks at some point and everybody is happy. I'm even happy if I only get an hour of water time and then go do whatever for the rest of the day, as long as I get wet i'm good. Gonna be there tomorrow, or the next day, or the next, it's no worries.

 

Exactly.