Medical Advise- How to go aboot getting a Vasectomy

Several thoughts here SS:

1. She might have Post Partum Depression. This is a real thing. Tell her to go see her PCP or Gyn for Meds.
2. New baby. You're working enormous hours. Enormous. So the last thing you can adapt to is a woman who is also exhausted mentally and physically from baby. Kids are like sponges, they suck you dry and then leave you.
3. She may be all touched out from constant feeding and touching with baby. Sex is tough the first 8 months for a new mom, some more than others. So, she may feel
4. Terrified you will leave her high and dry with the new baby. And feel unattractive. And see how you have pulled away from her. So she attacks you pushing you further away,,,etc. she sees yu won't marry her, so she attacks you more. It's a vicious cycle,

Let me suggest the two of you seek marriage counseling. You love your baby, right? More than life itself, right? Then you must do everything you can to see if this can work. Because a child who is raised by two married parents has a huge leg up in life. Trust me on this one. If the counseling goes nowhere, then you know you tried your best. Ask several doc's who they refer to for marriage counseling. Whoevers name keeps popping up, go there.

Once a child is born, it's never about you anymore. Nor about her. You want to raise a tulip, not a weed. It takes a lot to do that.

 

^^^ Good advice (although I don't think they are married)

 

#OutOfWedLockSexPartners

 

Nice! Yeah, there's still counseling for those too I believe

 

Betty has some good advice. I personally wouldn't see a counselor, thats just me, but trying to make things work is good advice. The kid is what's important now.

I half way agree with Yankee. The whole dividing your assets thing. It's very true. If you guys are together and things work, I don't see the point in getting the state involved. Although there could be benefits from it. Insurance and what not. Things like that. But it seems he has a pretty negative view. Don't be negative SS.

I know you don't want this to be a advice thread. But I got to say this from experience. I think it's pretty damn important. My parents despise each other. I grew up in a pretty hostile household. My parents stayed together for the kids, me and my sister. We were young and didn't want to see a divorce. As I got older though, I wish they had just done it. Growing up in a house full of hate was not good. So deffinitly air things out and try to make it work for the little one, but if it's not happening, split. No need to force a child to see hatred day in and day out.

That's just my .02, you got a good head on your shoulders and ate a good dude. However things go, it'll work out in the end

 

Post partum is real, and it's the primary reason I'll be headed to the urologist come winter. I eventually convinced my wife to join to a support group. It's definitely worth investigating. After a few months, she was back to being the woman I had been with the prior 8 years. If there's been a dramatic change with your lady since the baby was born, don't count it out.

 

Your lil passive-aggro sideswipe in calling my view negative is duly noted; my view is pragmatic based upon real-life experience, sparky. Free advice there for you, too.

So that when you end up like your parents, you won't have the state of Mississippi license choking you around your horse's ass of an existence. Sweet dreams & good luck with the gal of your nightmar, er, dreams.

 

Right. Marriage counseling is same as couples counseling...

 

Yankee....your not the only person who has been cheated on. I agree with you, your tone is just negative. Not every woman is a cheating psycho. Iv dated one. Literally in the looney bin. I know psychos.

This is SS thread so I won't do this here. I sent you a PM. Get back to me

 

Wow...sounds as if a lot of you married the wrong woman.
I am of no help here, except to say--vasectomy is NO answer to marriage/relationship problems.
There is a saying, "measure two or three times before you make the cut...".

 

naw bro never snip your balls u are the man make her get hr tubes tied.

 

you sound jaded yank me too lolll

 

pragmatic based upon real-life experience

No really just kidding, Betty's was by far the best post IMO

 

That condom was the greatest...even at 30, I wasn't that lucky! Not even close.

 

Dude, until you've married said psycho broomstick riding coont from hell...? You got nothing to say. Dating is farking. Living with a woman who you are legally & otherwise betrothed to is a whole 'nother world, rigatoni. Not even close.

I'll go check my pm. Oh buoy.

 

You know that's right, bruddah

 

It's all about balance