Carissa and Tyler

you can only be speaking for yourself. my condolences. maybe you need to go surfing or something.

 

Posted a long reply here but I'm deleting it. Don't want to go down this path; I'm here to talk about surfing.

Not sure what exactly you're asking me to explain to my daughter, but as that conversation is years away, my opinions and beliefs will have probably shifted by then anyway. I imagine I'll be completely honest with her and present things the way I see them, and she will take them or leave them and ultimately follow her own path and I'll love her no matter what.

 

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The thing about kids is it's not just one lesson. It's the combination of many examples and lessons over time.

 

Absolutely, and being less than a year and a half into this I'll be the first to admit I don't know sh*t about raising kids. And I definitely don't know sh*t about raising a daughter, having grown up without sisters and thus never seeing or experiencing what day to day childhood is like for a girl. My general working plan is basically just to try to be the type of man I'd want to see her marry (editing so I'm not misconstrued here -- please note this is a purely theoretical construct for my own purposes; practically speaking I would just want her to find someone who makes her happy), and for all my words, actions, and beliefs to be as congruent as possible within that framework. But who knows what will happen? I'm not the person I was five years ago, and I'm not the person I'll be in five years. Day to day I'm just trying to give my best in everything I do. Except when there's a good swell, then I pretty much say f*ck everything and go surfing (kidding... sort of).

 

Wow, great tread. My advise to you youngins is to f@ck them all.Skinny, heavey, I like a ford but I'll drive a chevy, I like it all man!

 

My experience is to let the kids grow up and actually experience life and living, with all the bumps and bruises and disappointments that go along with it.

Be there to support them and guide them when they hit those forks in the road. Do *not* attempt to raise them by constantly shielding them from the big bad world. Just be there to catch them when they fall. Many important lessons are learned this way. Not learning these lessons early in life will surely manifest themselves at some point in adulthood, and the person hasn't learned the skills to deal with it appropriately. It's OK to foul up as a kid. But the wrong and inexperienced approach as an adult usually has serious consequences.

Common examples:

A) Boy growing up gets everything he wants from parents; never expected to do chores. Usually grows up lazy and entitled with no interest in gainful employment, nor has the mechanical or social skills to apply as a young person attempting to make the jump to adulthood. He is now stunted and may not find his niche until his 30's (if at all).

B) Girl growing up is "protected" and sheltered by Daddy well into her teens. Girl has never experienced true release with boys, sex, romance or heartbreak. What the hell do you think is going to happen when she finally is on her own? Yup, they make really poor decisions with men that usually make poorer decisions. Or wind up grinding on my lap, crying, and telling me that they're doing it for baby formula.

In other words, point your kids in the right direction and let 'em run.

Because if you're stressing about what to tell them after they read what a bunch of 40 and 50-somethings said about a woman's appearance on an archaic form of social media...well, let's just say that you have much bigger issues in store.

 

Fully agree with all of this.

 

can this thread die now

ffs

 

Which part of Brave New World do some people not understand

 

Lol

 

I Want My Soma Holiday!!!

 

OTOH, the original post was pretty callous and unnecessary.

Seems like a firestarter post, aka White Sea Ape or Clownface.

Good job dude

 

Love your new avatar dude.

Now what were you saying?