RIP Bentley

Man Biggsy, that's tough. I'm really sorry for you and your daughter's loss. SeaBass sure was a beautiful creature, I would've fell just as hard as you did.

My condolences.

 

Bah!! Make a smoothy out him....papaya, guava and gecko.....don't waste good protein.
Same for all pets.....




(post-mortem humor)
cheer up biggs....

 

Really not the time nor place for that type of crap, Barry.

 

Thank you all sincerely. Been a shitty day at work and it was hard not to loose it a few times but I just put him in his nice wide and comfy Quicksilver Highline gloves box with some stuff from his tank. Next is the hard part - Brooke and I and my wife are going to bury him next to our rabbit, Puffalupikus next to Dipper the pine tree. All Brooke’s. She’s trying to not deal with it and I’m trying not to push. But closure is the way towards healing as we know... for everyone including me.
Thanks again buoys... it means the world to me

 

Dang man. I feel for you and brooke. Reptiles are tough man. Dealt with this with my snake chi. Try a home remedie and feel responsible if it didn't end good. Took me a bit to realize it wasn't my fault and did all i could. The same goes for you. Your not responsible and didn't let anyone down.

Give my condolences to brooke, and of course to you as well buddy

 

Buried our Sebastian at sunset, just me and Brooke. She Put some things from his tank in his box, with a heart locket and pic of her inside. And some photos I had printed off my phone.
She held it together ok, but broke down at the end.
And we talked. And healed alittle. And talked some more and I realized she will be ok and it didn’t ruin that sweet, wonderful kindness and zeal for living things that makes her so beautiful. And so that is how I will heal from the guilt I feel even though I shouldn’t. I didn’t hurt my daughter after all.

I know this sounds so silly and stupid over something so small but lately I’ve been getting drowned in feelings I’ve let people down and failed in the keeping of them so this one was a doozy because it was my daughter that felt it in her heart
So that crushed me a bit. BassMon and others have said I can’t blame myself, and I’ve tried hard believe me, but I know I did the best I thought and genuinely tried everything, so their right.
I just need to get my heart to believe it.

When I see her smile again and laugh, then I think it will.

 

Whether it's a dog or a cat or a reptile, they are family. They give us purpose. All along, we think they are looking out for us; at the end we discover the sheer agony that we have been looking out for them, and yet we are powerless as the horror sets in that there's nothing we can do as they leave us. Life is, indeed, scar tissue.

The weeks ahead will be very, very rough. Godspeed, Biggsy. Godspeed.

 

Dang Mr B, belated condolences. You did not let your girl down. You did everything you could and buried him with honor member of the family. When your girl grows up and becomes an adult, she will remember this and how great you were and hopefully has the same empathy to her own childrens feelings.
I got my kid tropical fish for xmas, let her pick out 9 and a little African frog. I forgot how difficult tropical fish can be compared to the beta's we've had, and they all died but two. And she cried for each one, and my heart broke every time she cried.
I am happy to say the two survivors are doing well and have 4 new roommates who so far are still swimming happily.
Get in the water Mr B, does wonders.

 

Did you know your dog had kidney disease before the diagnosis of kidney failure? My dog just recently got diagnosed with kidney disease. His level aren't that far off and we caught it early so we're hopeful for he'll live for a good long while. We've changed his diet to limit his protein intake. The only real symptoms we've seen is that he definitely drinks more now but that's actually a good thing. I believe this is the first time I've seen this post so sorry for your loss.

 

Thank you Manik. I need it but haven’t been able to get the time lately. I will get back on my feet and I to my Rhythm and be ok. Just going to take some time.

On a side note, I talked with BassMon about incorporating some design involving Sebastian in Brooke’s bort he’s going to be shaping and he had a very good point - if she has dealt with it ok, the design will be extra special for her. If it makes her sad then it’s a colossal fail #2 on my part...I’m up in the air about it and we have time so I’m not rushing it but I’m curious what you guys think about that idea. I appreciate the points of view I get here because I know you get where I’m at with it.
And I also just had a thought: I hijacked DPs thread and I’m sorry...It just seemed the right place to bring Sebastian because it became that for so many others. Hope your cool with that DP

 

People deal with deep grief in a myriad of ways. There’s no ‘ correct ’ way.

It’s always odd to me how some people either say nothing at all or say the most fu**ed up stupid asshat comments. It’s revealing, I feel, as to who people really are & sometimes you realize a friend is really not that at all.