How to handle racism in public?

Sounds like you guys reacted apropriately. It's better to ignore idiots like that.
We're a mixed race couple too, she's Spanish/Black/Native American, I'm white as a ghost.
Sometimes ppl stare at us and we pay no attention whatsoever.

 

go cry to your wife

 

I think white people need to start calling each other cracka's.

That is all.

 

Yah Koki B!! The Forume been missin' ya crackah!

 

Yankee, what's good, crackah?!

 

Nada mucho, my brutha....too much work & not enough surf treks make Yankee a dull boy (w props to Jack Nicholson in 'The Shining') Another month of 16 hr days at the boss death desk, with the upside being I'll be set up for multiple surf treks in CR & can pop to AI whenever the winds permit.

Although AI ain't been much unless you live on top of it like Zippy & Mitchell.

What say you, crackah, how's the Del country treating the Koki B...??

 

Well, he isn't worth all the print we all posted.
So go surfing or for a paddle. I had a great morning yesterday- 2 hours paddling and small surf longboarding.

 

Do something about it, calmly. What if it had been your kid that heard it, instead of your wife? Would you have acted differently? Sometimes you just have to stand up and set an example.

I had something similar happen to me at a little league game. One of the adults--think it was an uncle or friend, not another parent--was talking loudly about realestate and used a racial slur. I stood up, stepped around the guy on the bleachers, said "Hi" and sat down next to him. I looked him in the eye and said "Friend, there are a lot of kids here, including mine, and that's not the right language to use around children."

That was all that needed to be said. The guy wasn't directing it at anyone and apologized. If the guy decides to be belligerent, then bring other people in. Get loud, get other people's attention, and say something like "If you keep talking like that, you're going to have a real problem with me, and everybody else here."

When somebody's cussing or saying slurs around you, if they're not saying it to your face, then they're either directing it at you like a chickensh*t coward, or they don't realize what they're saying isn't right with everyone. Either way, the right thing to do is to stand up to them.

Obviously don't do this if you're somewhere that its going to put your kids or woman in danger. Baseball game, neighborhood pub; sure. Backwoods deep south biker bar, and you're a tourist who doesn't know any of the patrons, might be better to walk out.

 

Good to know your mental limits. You want to set an example, not make an example. So don't step up if you know you can't control your anger when the drunk a--hat decides to take the opportunity to insult you or your lady.

That's when you want to bring over your buddies and call out the d-bag publicly, not start something that's gonna get you thrown out and banned from your favorite watering hole or worse.

In private is one thing, and I'm not the PC police when I'm by myself at somebody's party or poker game, but in public is another. Hearing dudes openly talking smack like that can really make your kids or women scared of going out places, so you need to show them that things are under control, and not everybody is thinking what the one jerkoff is saying.

 

You assholes all exemplify why America is totally hung up on racism...blah, blah , blah.
Who cares what who said what or who should've done this or that. DSUPs wife had it right. Move on and waste no more spit on this.
Heyzus you morons will never get over your racism hangups!!!

 

Roll around with Visine. When the d!ckhead aint looking, drop a few quirts into his drink. Diarrhea for dayssssss

 

ok dsup...summarize this thread. I'm short on time. Was this guy black (African-American)....I thought I saw that in your post? Is your girl?

Just curious about the dynamic? Especially since such close proximity to you. Seems like she (and you) did the right thing. You can't control another man's actions but you can control your own. I think if you did say something, it would have gotten out of control.