East - my buddy was in similar situation. His wife went bananas so they got divorced. He was super depressed. He skipped a whole winter of surfing. You guys are same age. This might sound crazy but my buddy turned to Tinder. He got un-depressed by banging a steady stream of young, crazy ho-bags I am not kidding. Several times I walked into his house to throw him out of bed (to surf) and found him with 25yr old hottie. You gotta be careful though. Those ladies ain't for marrying - strictly banging. He got his confidence back and is now in healthy relationship with a woman his age.