Career / Life Advise Tread

That. Is. Awesome.
I’m gonna look it up right now....
Give my borts to a poor Swellie and my other shyt to science if I become an abandoner

 

So, fast forward about a month and like a script in a bad movie, it’s Groundhog Day again lol.
I got working almost immediately, which was great, survival wise, and home leveled out a bit. That’s gonna take some work I think but not forumme material...
The place I went is a guy I’ve stepped in for, or helped out for a few years now and he’s a great dude - but cut from the same old school cloth as many others in this business I’m afraid. And without getting into a long winded speal, it’s just more of the same trap I talked about earlier... and he’s one of six other companies that have called and are still calling me about working for them. It’s like blood in the water - the sharks come. And we all know how much I love sharks haha. Issue is if I’m truly going to change how things work, can’t do the same crap and expect different results and these places, while work, and several are good friends, are all traps into the same pattern. It’s harder than I thought too, but I’m just sticking to my holding pattern until the spring, putting a “package” together while I do, and am going to really push to branch out beyond just my one strength because I know I have many more that will serve me well I’ve just ignored them while in a comfort zone for a lot of my career. The challenge will be to stop listening to the side of me that is complacent and wake up the side of me that’s not.
I know what I want to achieve now, so eyes on the prize.
And I need some dam waves and stoke!!!
Don’t we all lol

 

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Well said WBF.

 

The college education obsession...

 

what did you sell? Where do you live?

 

Maybe you're right. I really thought I could have a career in finance though.

I have gone to a couple interviews at different banks and institutions. Still waiting to hear back from those.

Here's something I dream about: Having an occupation that doesn't have me trapped behind a desk all day... something where I'm working outdoors, maybe even on the road or something.

Something where I'm working on a team of competent people. I'm a smart person. I have been good at everything I have tried... what should I try next?

One thing is for sure. I need a change.

 

I have sold snowboards and outdoor gear (sales rep for Burton), used cars and new cars (franchise dealership salesman), and most recently I was sale manager for the business to business division of a large custom apparel company.

I live in Southeastern North Carolina.

 

Have you looked for a new job in finance with another company? Seriously, no bullsh!t - you owe your current employer NOTHING. If they don't want to pay you more then go find someone who will. Based on what you said, it doesn't sound like there is anything stopping you from updating your resume and quietly shopping new employers.

 

Are you only looking in your area or are you willing to move?

 

First thing you need to do is get rid of your cat. It will solve all your problems.

Just kidding, I like cats.

Seriously dude, you're young. I'll bet 90% of the guys and gals here didn't even find their niches until their mid 30's, then started finally growing their situations until their late 30's into their 40's. I've seen it happen a million times.

You're hungry, so it's good that you're motivated. That's a big start. Plus, the field you've chosen is already high stress and plays their $$$ tight, so you've made your bed already.

You're doing the right things. Employers are tight ass dickwads, so you've gotta keep putting feelers out with resumes and following up contacts. Bosses smile at you and keep you in the dark, why not do the same? Keep plowing away for your current asshole while looking for a situation that fits you better.

Go kiss a few frogs until you find a slipper that fits. Keep smiling and don't give them any ammo to bend you over until then.

And, something my grandpa told me and I still facked up until I finally figured it out: don't burn your bridges!!! Because I can guarantee that at some point in time it will come back to bite you in the arse.

That is all

 

Nah. It was filled. That was a tit gig too. Dude used to work for Enterprise and moved down there from Connecticut. He’ll make $150k+ this year and he cut his cost of living in half.
But there are alwys opps popping up

 

Sounds like the issue is with your outlook and mind set. Don't take any of this the wrong way. Because i mean it in good hearted way.

You realize you need change. And your applying and getting your name out there. That's awesome and what you need to do. But ther job search shouldn't hurt your confidence. This is what I'm talking about when i say the issue is with your outlook.

Don't get me wrong, i completly understand. I have been busting my ass for my company for about 5 years now. I get paid ok. But not what i deserve. Im not living paycheck to paycheck (although i was early on) but im still not super comfortable. I need change. I sent applications out. Been doing it for awhile. Nothing stuck. My confidence wasn't hurt though. Somthing would stick. Now im in the process of getting in with the MTA, union, great pay, pension. Nothing is set in stone. It's a competitive position. But i already made it past ther first stage. If it doesn't play out, somthing else will come along. All good.

My point is that you already know what you need to do. So any advice there is somthing you already know. You sound like a qualified and hard working guy. Someone will pay you to do what you do. It's not easy finding them. But it'll happen if you keep those feelers out there. So in the mean time be happy and confident that you have somthing alot of people don't. Drive and work ethic. Don't get all down and stressed and lose confidence. That's a bad situation. Keep the head up and things will happen for you if you keep applying everywhere.

 

What's wrong with your finances and why does it sound like you're just about breaking even while single, driving a titled-car, and little debt?

If it's a low-paying gig, you need to be looking for a better job in an area with a low-cost of living so you can put more money in your pocket. Single people in their mid-20s with a decent job should not be as stressed as your are. Save that energy for when you have a family, cus brother it ain't gonna get easier unless your spouse makes bank.

Just my personal experience, smaller companies tend to overwork their employees, you learn a lot, you do alot, there is a sense of accomplishment and it's rewarding, but they are more reliant on you since there is little overhead. The big companies tend to pay a little bit less but the workload is distributed among a bigger group so it doesn't feel like it's all on you. It still depends on the job, but that's just my observation from my own career.