coastal living: rural vs. urban: whats better and why? , and where i 've been lately

i like going to oob area and surrounding area for the ocean, but that IS IT. if i had to live there, i dunno man (although pine point area is considerably nicer). biddeford...surely you can't be that desperate. if you are, see how much you can downsize and go wells/berwick/somewhere in the vicinity of york.

but if i was in your spot, brunswick area not bad at all, and at least you got a decent college in the area so you know there are amenities and culture that you spoke of. damariscotta though, fthat.

camden/rockland beautiful, especially camden...but camden be $$$ i think. any farther than that (until you get to mdi) and i feel like you should probably maybe take a cousin you really like with you...especially if you go inland. although oob could possibly be the same mentality.

my solution would be north of portland, unless you just gotta have some sandy beaches and you don't have time to drive or means of transportation.

best of luck!

 

suites? i'm confused....

 

Ooops, Suniliarian slip...suits.

 

You have no ties here right? You had them and they went south and you just finished breaking them right?
operation F for freedom. If you got nothing holding you here now's your chance to walk about. Doesn't have to be all south pacific you know. Endless summer.

Then come back when your ready and make a decision on whats next with a level head.

 

If I may add my two cents. I moved out to the Oregon Coast from another rural town single and 31. Got stoked on the surfing. Minimal crowds. But if you're concerned about being single, rural coastal towns can be a bit rough. Minimal long term options, but if you're in a touristy town summertime can bring some new faces into town. Off season you basically just go for the girls that have all their teeth. They're easily the best looking ones.

Right now I live in Portland which puts me about 1.5-2 hrs from the coast depending on where I go. I work 4-10's so I can get out 2-4 times a month depending on how conditions line up with my day. But I've enjoyed the city life again after 7 years in 3 different rural towns. More to do. Lots of people to meet. City life is much better for my psyche overall. And my location is a good launching point for a variety of outdoors sports (2 hrs from mountains, 2 hrs from oceans), so that helps a lot.

F*** SoCal. Expensive and overcrowded.

 

Well, first of all, there aren't any cities in New Hampshire or Maine or Vermont. Nah, those ain't cities. Cleveland is a city.

Rural vs urban?

Well, that's a matter of personal opinion. Again, up there, urban doesn't exist.

Have you ever thought of moving to Buffalo, near a killer Starbucks, where you could set-up shop during the days telling tales or tails of womanizing and fin-busting hacks? There's a lake near Buffalo that sometimes produces surf. Could be the perfect set-up.

Have you ever considered writing a tale or tail of your life and shopping it to Hollywood? You sound pretty cool. So vibrant and exciting. I must admit I did feel this odd void in my life the past few weeks. I need my holes filled by you. You fill my holes. Thank you.

 

South pacific. Go. Go now. You may never have another chance.

 

Dude, are you stupid? East Coast vs. SoutPac? San Diego vs. SoutPac doesn't even rate a question!

I live on two coasts. One is the US West Coast in a pretty urban town a mile from a super-touristy pointbreak. Then, for a few months a year, I live in an Asian metropolis with escapes to a country house on an empty beach, sometimes for months. Like nothing but driftwood and the occasional stray dog for the next 30 miles of coastline, empty.

Pros of Urban Touristy:
Easy access to gear. Somebody to talk to in the lineup/friends/connections. You can get the spot wired if you can surf or sponge with half a crap, and you stop caring much about crowds. Somebody to talk to about surfing outside of the internet. Plenty of quality WC p---y. Access to a googleplex of other awesome WC spots. Surf every day, then take a week off when it goes flat. The drought doesn't affect surfers who don't care about lawns or other stuff in the dirt.

Cons:
P---y sometimes gets in the way of surf and s---t's expensive, yo.

Pros of Empty MidPac/Urban Metropolis:
24/7 nightlife/p---y/money money money. Seriously, you got a white face and reasonably articulate? Go put on a lab coat and shoot a commercial for some herbal medicine, or pose for a photo shoot for a new condo, "teach" english by hanging out with a group in a coffee shop for a couple of hours a day, or ship some (legal) product back home and make some real scratch.
Nobody surfs, and the nobodies that do surf either suck and look at you like you're a god, or they're decent and eager to make friends/show secret spots. BATHWATER. Consistent SH/HH tradeswell year round. M-fking typhoons will have you surfing inside ports and behind 180-degree bends in the swell in some ridiculous kine spots!

Cons:
Weird-ass culture, in which you are a total outsider, and you only make semi-friends with other expats and a few rare natives. But who cares? Sometimes the navy comes to chase you out of the water, but they usually give up if you pretend not to speak the language.

The cons are you are a coward and won't do it. You'll just talk about how you should have/could have for the rest of your boring life.

Go.

 

Don't just go for a year, go to stay. Make money. Get a hot native wife when you're done with 7-hour sessions.
Don't go to Bali the Ments, or Maldives except for local vacations and to see other white faces. They're full of Ozzie a-holes who've already taken your spot and wrecked the locals on white boys.
Don't go to a little island where everybody knows everybody else. You will make a fool/d-ck of yourself a few times before you get it sorted, and you don't need a rep following you around a flea speck reef in SouPac.

If you want really cheap, you could search the surf-exposed parts of India and Sri-Lanka, but I wouldn't, those places are gross even for me. You'll die of dysentery. Java probably has some choice spots, but you're gonna have to go feral, and money opportunities won't be there. Plus hard to travel to seek out surf when it's flat and you're no longer entertained by slapping mozzies. Also you'll die of dysentery or in a moped wreck.

Phillippines is a solid bet, but you're going to have to explore and learn how to bargain with the boatmen. Also, hard to find good surf near big cities or places to make money/have fun. They didn't build their towns near surf, for some reason. Also, 2nd world, and they know all about Americans since we colonized them, so you'll get stabbed for your money and die in a moped wreck.

So maybe look at some Pacific wind/fetch maps, old typhoon tracks, and see if you can figure out better places to go. PM me for hints maybe.

Oh, and if you do leave country, don't be a d--k to the locals when you can help it. They live there and are a lot smarter about living there than you'll ever be. They may treat you like a celebrity because they don't see many people who look like you, but don't let that go to your head.

 

Words of wisdom.

If you do find a place you like keep very quiet about it.

 

PS to my last post... If you have other interests, which it sounds like you do, make sure you move to a place that lets you scratch that itch, too. Surfing is the best, but it's not everything.

 

U2B maybe I should write a self help book......thanks for advice

on that note......
is it better to regret something you
A) didn't do
B) did do

Barry's advice is the advice of a pu$$y
the bodyboarder dude hit the nail on head

but fyi, out of A or B only one will send you to jail or give you the clap depending on the scenario

 

Don't forget about option F: Get Carver, move to Austin. Be the first guy on the Wavepool; shredder number one. Bath in all the incredible Texan women. Then, when you've finally perfected your backside 360 to floaters, and barrel-loops, move to the North Shore. Give competitive surfing a shot. Learn what it's all about and become a soul surfer

 

Everybody on here is all talking shallow reef passes and exotic locations....

Yet they can't even do a turn........

I don't know.

I think the Great Lakes might be just fine for a lot of dudes.

MIS-13, when is your self-help book coming out? I want to be a winner someday.

You know what I like?

How some of our shreddahs and scholars get taken-in by some of the more delusional folk on here. Hook, line and sinker.....

Oh, and could you people stop axing everyone where you should live or travel to. Thanks. Make a decision on your own. Of course, that doesn't apply to Outer Banks, Puerto Rico or Rica and Costa Rica or Rico questions. Naturally.

Ok let the fantasies and waves far outside one's abilities continue.......

If New England beachbreak puzzles you, I doubt you'll be owning the South Pacific. But, hey, it's the internet so......

 

bro you are a winner, if anything you'd be co author

'how not to blow it' by Stop and Martin

your chapters come first to show what NOT to do, then I write my chapters

 

You would be sending assholes to perdition!!
hahahahaa!!

 

Why not move to Portland? City living is the way to go!

 

well Idk too much about the north but il share my current living situation in nj.it sucks btw.

I guess u can call it rural or something,its like a white trash town,everybody knows everybody,the people in my town don't leave the town,they don't work,they all have foodstamps,and they are all prescribed painkillers from the only 3 pharmacies we have.

im like 45 seconds from the bay,and about 10 minutes to the sea,off season.now this is where the fun begins.that 10 minute ride this Friday will take 2 hours,no exaggerating.it sucks living this close to the beach and not going because I don't want to sit in traffic.one day I almost ran out of gas,sandy hook was full and they were detouring everyone down ocean ave.I busted an illegal u turn on the rumson bridge right infront of a cop lol,waved to her,and went back home.

im pretty sure u don't get the kind of visitors we get up there,but id pick a town that has no tourism whatsoever.if theres any bars,boardwalks,etc,steer clear of that sheit.then we got beaches nobody wants to go to like Asbury lol,ur car will be broken into.thats the place u want to move,not Asbury but something like it with plenty of white folk.i always pictured Vermont like Ireland.big cliffs with some epic points,maybe even a reef or 2.sheep walking by,old guys with big white beards.that would be paradise for someone like me

 

I am currently living "E" right now. Hating my job so much, I think Option "F" is going to be my next plan.

My brother is in Indonesia (USAF - Pretty central and far from the beach - Jakarta) so I may plan a trip and stay with his girlfriends family (they live at the beach on compound in Labuhan), maybe let them adopt me.

Good luck - I'd def get the hell away from the east coast...

 

What? GTFO!