divorced over surfing!

Set a goal. Write it down. Break it down in to smaller individual goals that all lead in you in that direction. Make daily decisions that keep you pointed in that direction and don't lose sight of the big picture. Set a time frame and don't let it get away from you. It can be done if you want it bad enough. You just have to start by putting it down on paper and speaking it out loud to someone. This helps keep you accountable to your word.

 

I agree with DP. Although iv never lived more than 20 minutes from the beach my whole life. I'll tell this story half to brag about the lady, and half to show how great it is to live close.

This weekends forecast was looking like this. Not great Saturday AM but maybe doable. Swell will build all day, peaking at night, then Sunday was looking like light winds and a sure thing. Woke up Saturday early. Checked surf, no good. Drove back home. Lady went to the gym, i ran to my parents to do laundry. While there i was checking the updated forecast. Looks like winds for Sunday will be Janie and from the E. No good. But i also saw that the wind will be lightening and going offshore around sunset that day (Saturday). Me and the lady had plans to go food shopping and then go on a date together. I told her that all was on hold and explained why. She knows how waves and forecasting works, so she knows that things change and when winds switch that's it. Gotta be ready to go at a moments notice. Well winds switched. I checked cams that didn't look good. I turned and asked her what i should do since there might not be waves the next day. She told me to at least go check because if i don't I'll regret it. She was right. Turned out to be really fun. Chest high and clean. Warm considering the over a foot of snow on the beach. Caught it with an hour and a half of daylight left. Surfed til sundown.

Being close allowed me to pull that off. If it was a trek or somthing i had to plan. I would of got skunked in the AM and never would of thought about the PM until the forecast changed, which would of been too late. And since I'm close, i got my surf in and was home quickly. Could of still gone on that date but the lady decided she'd rather order food and stay in.

 

I always wanted to live near a beach, particularly in Manasquan or Cape May, or in Ormond Beach Florida, where I summered as a child when my grandmother had a place down there. I was always told that I could never do it and it's too expensive LOL. I even lucked out by not buying a house in North Jersey in the early 00's. Then I moved to Manasquan in 2010, after having quite a bit of money saved up and money from a house in North Jersey I had owned and sold about 7 or 8 years earlier, which I had sitting in the bank for quite a while. Got a 15 year mortgage, which will be paid off by the time I'm 54 and only 5-10 minute bike ride from Manasquan Inlet.

There's other places I'd rather live, but really only on Oahu or maybe Cape May. I'll probably stay here for good, or maybe I'll crack one day and sell it and use the profit for a little cheap 900 square foot house (probably further from the beach and much smaller than my 4 bedroom 2100 square foot home now) and the rest on a condo on Oahu for the months that I have off from work. I feel fortunate, since I know some of you guys have to commute quite a ways to get to the beaches.

My nice neighbors also let me use their boat slip on the Glimmer Glass (which is 2 blocks away) for my wave runner and I also like just hanging out at the beach on flat days in the Summer. So there's always something to do around here. I also do the bike path regularly. We have a 6 or 7 mile bike path that goes from town into Allaire State Park and crosses over the Parkway, for those not familiar with the area.

 

You'll only hear the success stories here. Nobody is going to admit that they are whipped and have surfing restrictions, that's a tough one to admit

 

I had one that went to Oahu on vacation with me annually and agreed to a couple days out of that week, to take a ride with me to various North Shore spots and sit on the beaches there, while I surfed.

I'm still regretting letting that one get away, for all sorts of reasons.

 

And it's all ready on pilings for flooding and sdorm surges!

 

I mean they surf so much better than me that I am literally blown out of the water. As in they both physically remove me from the ocean violently with their greatly superior surfing.

And the nj surf hall of fame is bs.

 

5 Years




Five years - [The Rise and Fall of Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders from Mars] - David Bowie

[video=youtube;IWm03wYBTbM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWm03wYBTbM[/video]

 

Every time I hear about someone getting divorced or their wife threatening divorce, due to stuff like surfing, riding dirt bikes, playing in a band, etc, I start to feel not so bad about almost 46 years and no marriage and no kids.

Especially when I start to question ''Did I do all of this right? Or should I have went a different path?''. Even though I think most women will be fine with men that do these activities and if they're not, I'd hope they'd end things early on and not however many years and kids later or into the marriage.

 

Women ALWAYS have a plan, dood. It usually involves the man functioning as the walking, talking, working ATM whilst married;
and it always involves massive financial inputs to her as she ****cans you, takes the kids, kicks your ass out to a 1br aptmt, retains the house that you will mostly pay for & starts 'enjoying her youth' by banging anything that mumbles.

Yep.

 

This really puts thing into perspective for me. I got my own house, in my own name, will be paid for in 8 years at the latest. No kids, a little sad about that at this point maybe. I dodged a bullet, as I was engaged for a couple years and it folded before the marriage. She was a great girl, I'll never badmouth her and I don't think she would have kicked me out after we split, if we had been married.

But hey, ya never know!

 

Biggest mistake I made was ignoring the many warning signs, and marrying The Evil One.

Second biggest mistake? Putting it on the mortgage of the house that I bought 5 yrs before I even met it; then I refi'd 2 yrs into marriage. 'You should put me on the title, sniff sniff, what will I do if something happens to you??' What an idiot (me).

House appreciates from 254 to 550 from day I bought it til day I divorced her smokin' cum bucket self. She started cheatin', which no you can't control sorry stud-men, I divorce her, I have to pay her $250k cause that's her chunk of 'her' house. Lawyer's fees & payments ran it north of $300k.

Let experience be your guide, buoyz, always sign a pre-nup. Always keep what you have going into the business arrangement, er, marriage, separate.

Only reason I didn't sell the house & pay her was I figured that the house would keep climbing in value. Maybe pay me back for her insanity. House is supposedly worth $850 today, so hey wtf.