Fear of surf after having kids

you know that you sound like the biggest douchebag in the world right? Name dropping like a cool guy. If I ever surf near you and I know it is you I am going to burn you. And you are going to have to deal with it.

 

Ok dude, come meet me tomorrow then. Put your mouth where it is at..

I'll wait for your reply.

I'll deal with it...

Where you surfing tomorrow?

Just tell me and I'll be there.

 

I'm waiting........

 

Yeah F you you fuking punk.

Stop acting tuff on the internet you phag.

 

Still waiting........

 

Still waiting.....

Yeah that's what I fought or thought.

You people are afraid of your own shadows on here.

Ha, I'd love to dump half of you in Kensington/Fairhill and watch you squirm......

 

Still waiting.......

 

Still waiting, CD.

I sent you PM's....

Coward.

 

Ah you all see.....

Nobody will meet-up.

Practically everyone on here is a "hide behind the scenes" coward.

That should say something.

**** you, CD Surf. Sissy.

 

Hey RTR, I'm gonna go out tomorrow at coast guard on cape cod. I'll be on a boogy bort because my wrist is broken.
watch your step cuz Kala and a guy on a SUP will be blocking for me on the outer bar roll ins. I don't take kindly to getting dropped in on. I might just get angry. You wouldn't like me when I'm angry.

One time I called someone a kook.

 

Find a softer wave to surf

I recently began frequenting a different spot to sharpen up my bottom turn skills, and to try to understand/practice surfing top to bottom more vertically...

Though I do this on days I can handle only and wouldn't try this on days I know I can't bc I'm putting my life/neck in danger, and though no one is usually around me - that's putting others in danger too. You can't make big drops (from your perspective, whatever that is...for me it's 5-6'+ at a sandbar wave...while having second guesses or doubts, you'll hurt yourself for sure). So when it's 6-10+ I go to the softer beach break places...and yeah, the adrenaline is definitely up compared to a 2-3' day, but I know I can handle it, and I know what to do if I get j. Trouble

To me it doesn't really sound like the surfing is the issue as much as the spot/conditions. Know your ability and surf somewhere else if you use any doubts

Then get a life insurance plan...the premiums really aren't that much if you are in good health...you could probably at least pay off a mortgage for 15-25$ a month

 

OP, btw I have a 4 yro & a 14 wk old...so I do empathize

 

I revisit this quote from a surfer mag article about commitment:
Err too far on the side of caution and you'll live, but you'll live with a question that has no answer.
I like this quote.
It balances stuff.

Think about it

 

Hey Robert Tuff Robertfort- are you ok bro?? Is everything ok? I'm ok, your ok? (Did you ever read that book btw- pretty good read)

You seem a little on edge...

You know... Edgy...

Just a concerned swellinfo brother reaching out over the Internet.

Your Pal,
Mr Belmar

 

Library must have closed...shows over

 

Dead mr dirty sand flea-

I understand your predicament as it concerns your children. You definitely think twice as far as the risk factor. It's part of being the provider and protector for your family- like Betty says

But a 5 fout wave? Not really that dangerous. You could make the case that you could get just a hurt on a smaller wave- which is usually true. But that is usually cause by a board injury.

maybe a better line to draw is something like 8-10 fout waves

I think your real issue is in your head. 99% of it is usually always in your head when riding surfing borts. Maybe you should just swim out in 5 fout waves and let them toss you around to find out its not that bad to help get over your fear.

You do know that swellinfo now also offers phycological advise. Maybe you should start a new thread asking for phycologist care for your problems.

 

Dude I paddle out on overhead surf after chemo if 'm gonna go I would prefer it being surfbortin or sexafication. Least yer offspring can be proud you were chargin'. Erbody gets sketched out sometimes. Man up or put yer big girl panties on and take the drop.