Fear of surf after having kids

Discussion in 'Mid Atlantic' started by jettyflea, Feb 20, 2016.

  1. CDsurf

    CDsurf Well-Known Member

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    May 10, 2014
    you know that you sound like the biggest douchebag in the world right? Name dropping like a cool guy. If I ever surf near you and I know it is you I am going to burn you. And you are going to have to deal with it.
     
  2. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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    Dec 7, 2015
    Ok dude, come meet me tomorrow then. Put your mouth where it is at..

    I'll wait for your reply.

    I'll deal with it...

    Where you surfing tomorrow?

    Just tell me and I'll be there.
     

  3. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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  4. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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    Dec 7, 2015
    Yeah F you you fuking punk.

    Stop acting tuff on the internet you phag.
     
  5. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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  6. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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    Dec 7, 2015
    Still waiting.....

    Yeah that's what I fought or thought.

    You people are afraid of your own shadows on here.

    Ha, I'd love to dump half of you in Kensington/Fairhill and watch you squirm......
     
  7. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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  8. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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    Dec 7, 2015
    Still waiting, CD.

    I sent you PM's....

    Coward.
     
  9. Robert Taft Rumfoord

    Robert Taft Rumfoord Well-Known Member

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    Dec 7, 2015
    Ah you all see.....

    Nobody will meet-up.

    Practically everyone on here is a "hide behind the scenes" coward.

    That should say something.

    **** you, CD Surf. Sissy.
     
  10. crindlefish

    crindlefish Well-Known Member

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    Apr 23, 2015
    Hey RTR, I'm gonna go out tomorrow at coast guard on cape cod. I'll be on a boogy bort because my wrist is broken.
    watch your step cuz Kala and a guy on a SUP will be blocking for me on the outer bar roll ins. I don't take kindly to getting dropped in on. I might just get angry. You wouldn't like me when I'm angry.

    One time I called someone a kook.
     
  11. your pier

    your pier Well-Known Member

    Dec 2, 2013
    Find a softer wave to surf

    I recently began frequenting a different spot to sharpen up my bottom turn skills, and to try to understand/practice surfing top to bottom more vertically...

    Though I do this on days I can handle only and wouldn't try this on days I know I can't bc I'm putting my life/neck in danger, and though no one is usually around me - that's putting others in danger too. You can't make big drops (from your perspective, whatever that is...for me it's 5-6'+ at a sandbar wave...while having second guesses or doubts, you'll hurt yourself for sure). So when it's 6-10+ I go to the softer beach break places...and yeah, the adrenaline is definitely up compared to a 2-3' day, but I know I can handle it, and I know what to do if I get j. Trouble

    To me it doesn't really sound like the surfing is the issue as much as the spot/conditions. Know your ability and surf somewhere else if you use any doubts

    Then get a life insurance plan...the premiums really aren't that much if you are in good health...you could probably at least pay off a mortgage for 15-25$ a month
     
  12. your pier

    your pier Well-Known Member

    Dec 2, 2013
    OP, btw I have a 4 yro & a 14 wk old...so I do empathize
     
  13. crindlefish

    crindlefish Well-Known Member

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    Apr 23, 2015
    I revisit this quote from a surfer mag article about commitment:
    Err too far on the side of caution and you'll live, but you'll live with a question that has no answer.
    I like this quote.
    It balances stuff.

    Think about it
     
  14. Mr.Belmar

    Mr.Belmar Well-Known Member

    Aug 19, 2010

    Hey Robert Tuff Robertfort- are you ok bro?? Is everything ok? I'm ok, your ok? (Did you ever read that book btw- pretty good read)

    You seem a little on edge...

    You know... Edgy...

    Just a concerned swellinfo brother reaching out over the Internet.

    Your Pal,
    Mr Belmar
     
  15. xJohnnyUtahX

    xJohnnyUtahX Well-Known Member

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    May 30, 2010
    Library must have closed...shows over
     
  16. Mr.Belmar

    Mr.Belmar Well-Known Member

    Aug 19, 2010
    Dead mr dirty sand flea-

    I understand your predicament as it concerns your children. You definitely think twice as far as the risk factor. It's part of being the provider and protector for your family- like Betty says

    But a 5 fout wave? Not really that dangerous. You could make the case that you could get just a hurt on a smaller wave- which is usually true. But that is usually cause by a board injury.

    maybe a better line to draw is something like 8-10 fout waves

    I think your real issue is in your head. 99% of it is usually always in your head when riding surfing borts. Maybe you should just swim out in 5 fout waves and let them toss you around to find out its not that bad to help get over your fear.

    You do know that swellinfo now also offers phycological advise. Maybe you should start a new thread asking for phycologist care for your problems.
     
  17. jettyflea

    jettyflea Well-Known Member

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    Apr 12, 2013
    Best advice dude. That's what I need to hear. I need to take the finger out of the p*** and just paddle back out. I"ve been surfing for a while and never had this problem before having kids and it's just a recent thing with the bad hold down/near drowning. I just need to stop thinking about it.

    I'm not a newbie and I'm not looking for the experience lecture. I"m just wondering if this has creeped into other experienced surfers heads after having kids, a bad day, and not being in the best of shape anymore. I'm not pushing 300 (lol under 200) and think I'm still fit. Just wondering if other surfers who never had this problem had it come on suddenly and any suggestions to rectify it. The easiest answer is stop being a pu88y and stop thinking so much which I think is the answer. Thanks.
     
  18. jettyflea

    jettyflea Well-Known Member

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    Apr 12, 2013
    This cracked me up. I used to surf 10-12 feet not too long ago. That's what I'm saying. This is recent. I think it's mental as you say and other life **** going on.
     
  19. LazyE

    LazyE Well-Known Member

    Aug 6, 2014
    Dude I paddle out on overhead surf after chemo if 'm gonna go I would prefer it being surfbortin or sexafication. Least yer offspring can be proud you were chargin'. Erbody gets sketched out sometimes. Man up or put yer big girl panties on and take the drop.
     
  20. CDsurf

    CDsurf Well-Known Member

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    May 10, 2014