^this To the OP - bro there are so many fish out there it's not even funny. Take a few new ones for a swim and you'll forget about this other one real fast. Look ahead, it's not where we've been that matters. The focus should be on where we are going.
Lots of good info here for ya. Betty hit it on the head. I like Sean's motto, too, replace 'em, don't chase 'em. Seriously though man, it might suck right now, but enjoy your time to yourself. Another honey will come along!
Oh man... I didnt read all this- but if you really likes her and didn't want to lose her, why didn't you just marry her? It's not to late- it's probably all she wants anyways. Commitment is a good thing- you know that from surfing, right??
Braap how old are you and how old is she if you dont mind me asking? And what was the reason given? Details. therapyinfo requires participation. Im not sure where you are at in life, but you have two options: 1. Do what most folks here have said and move on. Hop on Tinder and get your schlong dipped in a minute. Then take a trip to Amsterdam and empty out your bank account, and get your bucket list completed. Just went through a break up maself and it made my life exponentially better. 2. Identify the source of the problem through meaningful discussion, and see if it can be remedied. I'm sure she gave you a reason? What was the reason? If its some superficial garbage then bail. If its some deep ish then do some soul searching and see if its something you can modify without compromising your happiness. Without knowing the details of the situation its hard to give solid advice. Maybe its passed the point of no return? Maybe she has already been on casting couch?
If you really do want her the best thing to do is not fight it. Move on and go after another chick to keep you from going crazy. If you stalk her she'll know she's got you wrapped up and she can come back to you at any time.... If you ignore her she may realize that you're not waiting around and freak out... And you may realize you're better off without her. Only cure for heartache is pu$$y.
Don't change for her. If that is what she is asking then let her go. You said she is perfect for you but if that were true then she wouldn't require you to change in order for you to be blessed with her presence. Let her go you'll be happier without her.
Voice of experience...i wasted 5 years trapped to a girl i didnt even marry. Muster all your strength and act happy about a break. Then go travel and live life. You will either meet the one your supposed to be with or you can get back to her at a later date. It will be hard, but Betty is right, if she is not head over heels then you changing won't make any difference. Beware of the rebound relationships and leave the strippers at the night club.
Never change to keep someone, be yourself. If they don't like the real you its all a lie anyway and they dont like you they just like to control you.
A guy I recently worked with had some recent "girl troubles". I remember I was sent away for some work abroad, and I was working with this guy's wife. The guy would call her and txt her all day long, dozens of times all day and night...pretty pathetic. And believe me, she was not a very handsome woman. We were stuck out in the sticks, so cellphone reception was usually non-existent. When he couldn't get ahold of her via cell, he'd call the main base, which had a hard line. I'd usually be the guy to pick up the phone, and he'd get all awkward, asking where she was. I guess the guy had some serious issues, whether they be trust issues, control issues, whatever. I don't know if she was a cheater. The funny thing was, some of us at work had found out that he was texting selfies of him wearing nothing but a Plum Smuggler to some other chick. Sad. A few weeks ago, a bunch of the guys I used to work with told me that he had been arrested for 2 counts of Attempted Murder. Seems that he had some kind of trouble with his wife on a Friday, and was arrested for Domestic Violence. He was out of jail on Saturday. Then, on Monday, something went down and he busted into his wife's house and found her with another guy. Both of them hid in a closet; Mr. Jealous started firing a .22 into the closet and grazed The Other Guy in the head, causing critical injuries. SWAT was called in, creating a hostage situation, which thankfully ended after several hours. He's still sitting in jail with what I consider a very light bail amount of $300,000. I've had girls dump me, and I've been depressed and/or angry over it. But I've found that if you get all clingy and fatal and over-sensitive, you've hammered the last nail in your own coffin. Suck it up, man up, act cocky about it, go out and have a few drinks, and get used to the thought of possible extended masturbation. There is nothing in this world (women included) to lose your pride, dignity and/or freedom over. Peace out.
I agree, it made me smile. Y'all have a good amount of life experience between all of you so that's why I asked what y'all think. I appreciate you guys having actual thoughtful things to say and I think that I am taking yall's original advice and letting her go.
