How to handle racism in public?

Discussion in 'All Discussions' started by DawnPatrol321, May 20, 2016.

  1. aka pumpmaster

    aka pumpmaster Well-Known Member

    Apr 30, 2008
    so you jump in his face about it and he kicks your ass or worse...not worth it.
  2. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    Seems to be the general consensus here. Either I beat him up, or I get beat up, or someone ends up dead. So I guess it comes down to swallowing ones pride, which is a tough pill to swallow.

  3. Barry Cuda

    Barry Cuda Guest

    Naw, we have been talking about it for at least 100 years--nothing or little has changed. Racism will NEVER leave this culture. It is forever here.
    And we get it at home as well. Keep in mind , my wife is quebecoise and her french accent (I personally love it) often brings out the worse in morons around here. But, she always pulls me away from it as well. But we don't belabor the issue--it isn't worth the spit, print, or time. And your wife did exactly what my wife does--they are smarter than us> I suspect you and I would end up in the ER getting stitches......hahahahaha!!
  4. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    They are smarter than us, that's for sure. HAHA As for stiches, depends on the other guy, this one I don't feel had a chance, but his buddy could have made things dicey. I was just with my wife, so yeah, 2 - 1.
  5. aka pumpmaster

    aka pumpmaster Well-Known Member

    Apr 30, 2008
    As long as it wasnt clearly directed at you or her, let is slide.
  6. JayD

    JayD Well-Known Member

    Feb 6, 2012

    Ho brudda, she sounds hot (jk...kind of:cool:). Tough call. Like AKA said you could have stepped up and got pounded. I would have had a hard time not saying something though but..... and this is something I have worked on for years....being the "bigger man" is probably the right way to go most of the time. It's tough when you have that underlying temper.
  7. Peajay4060

    Peajay4060 Well-Known Member

    Nov 14, 2011
    I think black folks might think it is worth the spit print and time. I mean there was the Civil Rights Act. Kind of a big deal. Black and white couldn't sit in the same place or use the same bathroom. DPSUP couldn't have taken his wife to that establishment and if he did they might both end up dead and nobody would be prosecuted. He lives in Florida. So there must have been some change. It wasn't because people just let things go.
  8. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    I'm use to it, we literally can't go anywhere in public without someone making a comment of some sort, be it positive or negative. Usually positive, but it gets old after a while, everybody having an opinion that is. But i'm a very lucky man, so it comes with the territory.

    Thanks Peajay, very good point.
  9. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    Huh? I'm not following sorry.
  10. Barry Cuda

    Barry Cuda Guest

    Perhaps DSUP is smart enough to know that when he is with his wife, for her protection, it is best to walk out with her and leave trouble behind??
    And perhaps you are too much of a dumbass to recognize that?
    Wake up stank. Now go defend some mooselim terrorists.....
  11. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    That's one way of looking at it. I think he's referring to the Lunada Bay thread where I was saying I wouldn't put up being bullied or assaulted for simply showing up at a PUBLIC beach. There is a difference between facing someone who is directly threatening you with violence or has already assaulted you in an effort to get you to leave vs. an indirect cowardly racist comment made at a public bar with no threat of violence or being assaulted in any way. Now, had the guy turned to me or my wife and said your kind aint welcome here and got in my face to challenge me, that would of been a whole different ball game.
  12. yankee

    yankee Well-Known Member

    Sep 26, 2008
    You done good, DPSUP.

    There's basically only 2 male-ass-mongers on The Fourume; they try to make each & every tread aboot themselves.... via personal attacks, inane references to shiiiiite that doesn't matter, and worse.

    Too bad the virtual neutron bomb doesn't exist.

    Staying on topic, you are walking the good road & you have a good life. Lotta guts walking away from racist asshats. Stay the course, bruddah. :cool:
  13. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    Keeping this in mind has kept me from losing my cool more than once. You are right, I have everything, and I mean everything in life that I could want at the moment, with the exception of a child, and that's up for debate lol Other than that, I want for nothing, other than for this flat spell to end. So yeah, life is good and I really don't want to jeopardize that if I can help it. I think by bouncing this off you all I have learned a lot, as I think others have too. I just hope this type of thing doesn't happen again, but if it does, I'll be sure to remember this discussion.
  14. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
  15. Valhallalla

    Valhallalla Well-Known Member

    Jan 24, 2013
    Fuk bigoted assholes! Anybody that treats someone differently because of race, religion or sexual orientation can suck my cock!
  16. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    Or Calk
  17. aka pumpmaster

    aka pumpmaster Well-Known Member

    Apr 30, 2008
    probably should never read the Turner Diaries
  18. nynj

    nynj Well-Known Member

    Jul 27, 2012
  19. sailquik

    sailquik Well-Known Member

    Nov 23, 2012
    I don't mean any disrespect; you were there and I was not, but from the description of your wife's heritage she sounds more "brown" - meaning, she might just look like she has a tan and in the darkness of a bar her racial makeup might not even have been noticeable or the issue at all. Not asking for pics or nothin' (but feel free to provide if you feel the need, swimsuit pics are best to gauge the actual skin shade :p ) but are you sure you didn't get the whole wrong impression and your wife had nothing to do with it?

    I've had tons of racist and reverse racist remarks, I just tend to ignore. I tend to find humor in everything. Example?

    Trip to DC with my high school 30 years ago. Friend and I meet two girls in the hotel elevator and start chatting them up (we're both pretty pale and he has blue eyes).
    "Where are you from?" they ask.
    "Puerto Rico" we reply
    "No way, we don't believe you - you guys are too white"
    "No, really"
    "Prove it - let's see your switchblades"
    Said with a straight face - I didn't ask if they were kidding - partly because I was shocked by the question. But I did manage to come back with "Sorry, I don't have it on me, left it in my loincloth" (In hindsight, maybe she was asking to see my "switchblade"?)

    The opposite happens to me all the time too- my wife is a northeastern blonde of German descent. Guy and his girl in the elevator at the mall look at us and go off in Spanish about how Americans are invading the island, taking over and generally screwing the locals. I look at him and say "Tu sabes que yo soy boricua, verdad?". Guy apologizes. Funny how people will talk behind your back but shrink when they have to stand by what they say.

    In general, I just don't waste my time on racists... they say to never try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and it annoys the pig.
  20. DawnPatrol321

    DawnPatrol321 Well-Known Member

    Mar 6, 2012
    Fair point, it's certainly a possibility, people always ask, "so what are you?" Most can tell she's got black in her but can also tell she's mixed with something else, very unique look but based on his timing of the comment and the body language of the two guys it sure seemed intentional, but it's over now so moving on.