Severing ties with parents...

thats wrong learn from others that came before you.

 

Homes are now 500% more than they were 30 years ago. And salaries are not...

 

Yea im an Earth and Environmental Science major. I have like 3.0 overall but not good enough probably to get into grad school. just gonna try to find a job in CA or somewhere with better waves than VB haha

 

Pumpmaster is not wrong, he's right.

Are you, sandblaster, saying that junior should stay under mama's skirts....?

 

Reason for everything eh homey?

 

It started with authority figures and mentors being persecuted when a young person showed lack of accountability. What's the value in making mistakes if you're not set up to pay for and learn from them. Someone earlier mentioned learning from mistakes of others before us. That's practical, but idealistic and few of us are capable of consistent learning vicariously through others. We need to touch the hot stove and feel the pain.

Then it progressed to everyone getting a trophy. Oh, you didn't kick ass and come in first? Get on your horse and fill in your gaps by existing just outside the edge of your comfort zone. If being mediocre or worse is condoned, motivation towards achievement becomes nil.

There are no jobs when you get out of college? Then take a risk (necessary for success always) and create one as a sole proprietor. The risk becomes non-existent when you lay it all on the line by sheer commitment and success is now a "when" not an "if". So your near quarter mil priced private college kept you from getting a job? Then you should've been an apprentice and hit the grind in a vocational trade out of high school.

Then again, those who've been getting handouts all along know nothing else other than to wait with their outstretched hands looking for the next handout.

 

You aspired for a military career yet you joke about wounded warriors. Don't know if your father ever had active duty, maybe he did, maybe he was reserve. What if he were a wounded warrior? Still joking about an amputee then after they risked their ass and rest of their life for you? Run out of your parents' door full speed tomorrow and feel the weight of the world around you. Have it kick you in the ass six or three hundred times. See if you get up. Unless your arrested development via handouts has eternally screwed you (possible) then you will get up. And when you stand up each time you are stronger and better and have clearer perspective on the world.

 

And he will be a good man for it. By that time, he will know you did this out of love if he doesn't know that already.

 

You have that "equity" any time the market has hit the floor in the last few decades? Home ownership has its benefits. It also raises your financial liability immensely and when things go wrong with repairs and upkeep it can be a money pit. It's only hard to save up for a home once you start to rent if you're not trading up for most else and just pissing your budget away. Read up on the stats of renting. It changes from time to time, but the renter has freedom that the home owner does not. Nothing is so absolute as people make it to be on this topic.

 

There you have it folks.

I highly doubt you truly respect others that have not been handed it all and still made it for you are an adult's chronological age and have yet to feel what it's like to pull the heavy sled of independence and responsibility. When you're the one putting your own food on the table and the shirt on your back, you look at everything a whole lot differently. That's when you can begin to have respect for someone, when you've walked a mile in their shoes.

 

I'm going to put "Man, I wish I hadn't moved out on my own and stayed in my parents' house until I was at least 26. What a mistake!" up there with "Man, I wish I'd never moved to the coast. What a mistake!"

Sure, there are people who actually say and believe the first statement. They also failed to learn from life coming at them with a flurry of punches and are still waiting for their next handout. It's probably coming from the federal government in a couple days on the first of the month. They have all you to thank for that regular handout. But they probably lack the perspective for thanks.

Does $hit happen to us we don't ask for? Of course. Such is life and it's up to each of us to still persevere.

 

Take Rodney's Advice:

"Move back in with your parents... let them worry about it!"

Especially if they live near the beach and you get along with them. You do the same for your kids someday. Save some $$$. Avoid rent as long as you can.

Time to surf.

Ryan

 

Buying a home is a prerequisite to a full life? Youth is wasted that way.

 

I see what your saying E mass and to each their own,(No pun inteneded)but the housing market goes on peaks and valleys but from our expierience by far I'd rather own.We bought our place about 10 years ago.That would be over $100,000 easily for rent if we had stayed renting.Too me thats just throwing your money away.The guy is only 22 years old.Its not like hes 45.Im not even a conservative type person but I feel that what makes the most sence in the long run.

 

I moved out when I was 18, went to college, bought a few condos in AZ (tried to play the house flip game), and then the economy crashed, I was forced to keep them or foreclose, I had to rent out the condos because I simply didn't want to live so far from the ocean anymore. I started reading about economics..HEAVILY. I wanted to understand WHY a crash like that could have happened. Long story short, you never know what is going to happen and you can't plan for it. Don't get greedy like I was because it makes you unhappy and keeps you from surfing. I'm 32 now and yeah, I had to move back in with family for the past 2 years to recoup some of the six figure losses I sustained. Don't be like me. Just move out, don't get greedy, and don't get caught up in the whole "I gotta own my own home" game. That is a nightmare, especially for young people in today's economic climate. Just move out, work hard, and surf as much as possible. I can't stress the surf part enough. HAHA.

 

I live in my car and surf every chance I get. Couldn't be happier

 

Bullsh!t. We all had the same struggles. You want to know the key? Most of us took the crappy low level entry jobs and worked our way up instead of waiting for the mid-level stuff we thought we would get right of college (and the college admins and profs told us we would get). that is exactly what paul did and it paid off.

 

so you tried and were turned away??