Severing ties with parents...

That's funny, that was almost an hour ago but your little green light next to your name..oh that's right you live in that giant house right on the beach that you bought w/ all the money you made doing who know whatever it is that you do, so it musta been a short sesh. Don't worry, I'll make up for my time in my office(not really a "cubicle cage") tomorrow.

 

Haven't lived with my folks since I was 18. Was economically tough right out of college but I scraped by. 31 now and I've moved all around the northeast, moved for a girl I almost married. Some places were better than others, but as someone who's been locked into living somewhere because of a commitment to someone...get the hell out if you're not happy and you have no ties there. Unless it's some amazing career opportunity you can't pass up, leave. Use your freedom to your advantage and move somewhere you've always wanted to live. Be smart about it, save money, vacation days for quitting time, move somewhere you know someone who can help you out for a bit, etc.

Seriously, if I was in your shoes at your age, I'd be outta there if I didn't like it. It'll be soon enough before you meet another woman and tie yourself down again...take advantage of the freedom while you have it.

 

Even though I initially said eff it, go for it, if you did stack money for a year you'd be glad you did, even more so when you get that townhouse...in which case, are you hosting the first annual SI New England meet and greet?

 

Dude Dell's is the $hit! I personally love the watermelon flavor

 

Emass: Get off your high-horse man, it would be much easier to digest the few gems of insight you have randomly placed in your litany of posts on this subject. Your self-felation amazes me, I bet the area around you looks like someone blew up a barrel of yogurt after you post some of that crap.

BCN: I want to reiterate what some others have said here--save up money for at least 9 months before you make a move. Save hard, live like a monk.... a surfing monk. Also, don't go buy a turn-key house if you are planning to go that route. If you have moderate construction skills go buy a complete dog of a house and fix it up as you live in it. I'm talking something under $30,000.

 

Dell's Headache > Ice Cream Headache

 

My first born got a poor counter type job fresh out of ivy league and said, mom you didn't send me to college for this job. I said, You're right, I sent you to college for an education. Get a room mate and a cheap used car. Fast forward five years,that child now has worked up the corporate ladder and makes good money. Of course we also told that child, Sure you can come home but we will charge you rent. Child said,Why would I come home then. I thought, EXACTLY.

Your parents are not pushing you out of the nest. You will have to throw yourself out there. Go rent an apartment and get on with life! It's anxiety arousing for sure,but also fun and confidence building. It's safer than riding a big wave.

 

Without a doubt.

 

Be proud of that fact

 

You don't have to leave your job. Just leave home

 

Ya I'd say nynj nailed it. I'm 24, still semi-living at home, working full time and having a blast. Granted all of my high school friends lacked in the motivation department so I still have lots of buds around (both kinds).

My parents never rented, just lived at home and bought there first house together at 23, so that was always my philosophy going into it. Suck it up and live at home and save $ like it's my job is what I've been told.

Moving into an apartment on your own isn't necessarily going to alleviate the boredom. You make your own fun. Whatever you choose to do you'll be fine!

 

^ +1. nynj, smart man. there is totally a level of self-satisfaction of getting out and being financially independent though, at least for me. felt like my parents had done enough already! and obviously, the social/romantic aspect improves....

 

Suck it. Very little of my posts on this subject have anything to do with me aside from responding to Jerry Sandusky's Nephew saying I sounded like a bitter old man. Me telling a sheltered kid what time it is after says he wants to idyllically and naively join the military hours after making fun of wounded warriors has zero to do with any ego on my part and everything to do with him needing a wake up call.

Feel free to point out where I was riding a high horse on my posts I'm this thread. Would love to debate that with you. There were quite a few societal issues raised in this thread and I'll welcome you to both show how I made myself the focal point of them and also refute them. You'll probably come up with some BS excuse though. Typical.

 

Thanks for the surveillance, Big Brah! Whatever green light you speak of must've been on from having the site open in my phone browser as I was at the break all afternoon. Don't recall saying what size crib I have on the oceanfront or what it's priced at. For all you know, I could we swinging between two fence posts on a Nicaraguan hammock overlooking the water and just sleeping in my wetty. Glad to hear your cage is larger, so much room for activities in there!

 

F'in A Emass, what happened man? You came out cold, talking about bringing your beginner friend into some miracle 10'+, jetty-created surf on a day when nowhere else in New England was above 3', fought through the attacks and really (no sarcasm here) dropped some gem posts that were insightful and well-thought, and now you go off on this thread like this? I'm so disappointed, you were climbing the ranks of the SI posters for me.

I'm from the generation you seem to harbor so much dislike for. And man, Emass, as someone who works his a** off for everything I have, I think you're making some strong generalizations that maybe you, as someone who is neither part of the generation you are so readily trashing, nor has a child in that one to provide a solid look into (I assume you don't, unless you were getting after the d*** thang far younger than I), aren't in the best position to make, and I, respectfully of course, agree that you should get off your freaking high horse. You asked for your examples? Let's start here:

Come on man. No high horse there?

And for the record, I'm not in anyway positing that we have it harder than previous generations, as you seem to insinuate that I, as a member of my generation, must think I do. I'm grateful for what I had,and work my tail off to try to find more. But please, don't turn into the crotchety old man talking down at younger generations already - you're in your early 30s! How bad will it be when you're 70?

Back in Emass' day, they had to walk 15 miles, through the snow, both ways, to take their friends out for a nice 10' drop onto a jetty.

 

NEF - The words "generation in general" were quoted because the OP gnat used those himself to lament the shackles that this country has placed on him and his peers. They weren't put in between apostrophes to point the finger across a whole sub-culture in a "you people" type of way (anyone seen Anger Management? great scene). You threw yourself into the "accused" category, I did not. And when I speak about a generation or a culture, it's in a "some" or "most" capacity. It would be ignorant to say "all" and I never did or implied it. If what you say is true and that you aren't typical of a lot of those you grew up with, then you should be content in that and not be bothered by any of this.

Part of what I've done for years is help your generation get more opportunities in their lives, so I think I can have an educated opinion in what opportunities they have, what they are up against, and how well the adapt to the obstacles. I've gone to great lengths to help those in your generation and will continue to. Why? Because I believe in peoples' intrinsic good and strength. That matters little though, as we are what we think and until they believe in their good and strength they won't turn the corner.

I'd say it's affecting me that you're so disappointed that I was the dark horse that rose swiftly through the Top 25 Poll only to fall from the voters' graces, but all I've really every got from you on this forum is somewhat similar garbage that's so breaking your heart about me for. I come on here a few months ago being honest about an incident I had in the water with a friend and it's the band of brothers coming out of the wood work to rip me a new one over and over. SUP comes on here this week and humbly asks for adult advice from many like peers on here and got mostly a great and authentic response from this whole forum (including me). [insert dependent adult's name here] comes on after his grand military performance and asks why he's ungrateful for being spoon fed only the finest his whole life, yet I'm wrong for telling him exactly why he's unhappy and ungrateful.

The fact that I'm supposed to take this kid out for ice cream and call him "Champ" when he, as the son of a naval commander, ridicules wounded veterans, then throws a shot my way about my life is further proof of what's wrong with cause and effect in the current society. Would love to know how many of the mouthier characters on here come from gated communities and then how many have set foot in a Boys Club or YMCA during their adolescence. I told the kid to stop be a pissing and moaning beta and get out and exercise his true nature which is to adapt and enjoy the growth very much.

If you or anyone has issues with the accuracy of my statements, I'd enjoy further discourse and making it personal prevents it from being a viable debate.

 

High horse, emass, high horse. No one can ever say anything remotely contradictory toward you. I offered that as a good-natured post about how you shouldn't generalize. And please, don't send me another 6 paragraph PM explaining how you feel when I say anything contradictory toward you. Find some humor in life.

And if you'll recall the original thread in question, I wasn't one blasting you at all. While I admittedly questioned your wave scale, I, as YOU asked, offered a similar experience, and said it sounded like you'd learned, and that it would be a good experience to look back on going forward. Don't turn this into a you against the world situation, AGAIN.

You're a smart guy, clearly, so I look forward to some more ad nauseum holier-than-thou rhetoric on the subject.