Should I Stay or Should I Go?

We all die alone, no one goes with you.

Yeah, I'm a bit different than most folks. I've learned, actually in the last couple of years, that this human convention of companionship is merely a paradigm. You can't count on another for your happiness/contentness.

And worrying aboot whether someone cares aboot you, is a state of mind solely in peoples' head. As long as You care aboot You, nothing else matters. And I do NOT mean being a selfish prick and being self-centered and stuff. I mean as long as you consider yourself a worthwhile being then other's opinions don't much matter. Really, think aboot it, why does thinking someone cares aboot you really matter. Really, think deepely aboot that. Is it innate to humans or is it some kind of ego thing? I don't know.

Most human relationships go bunk sooner or later. Some might find that fairy tale romantic relationship, but most people "settle." And most people tend to be kind of fickle. Ahh, everything gets boring after a while.

This reminds me of a show I saw sometime ago. This dude, got sobered-up from a wild life, and subsequently became disillusioned with people and society. So he moved to Alaska to live amongst the bears(alright !!) and to be "free." He lived with nature and befriended the local bear population(Alright !!). One day, down-the-road, our hero was attacked and killed by one of his bear friends. Now, y'all think aboot that one. You can look at it from different angles - some proponents of the feral the life and some against it.

Can a person fuction/survive/maintain sanity in this enviroment? Does it represent the fact that any relationship - human or animal - can take a grizzly(pun intended) turn for the worse? Are you trapped equally in Manhattan and Saskatchawan? Are you more free in the woods than the city? I don't know man.

Oh Dusk Patrol SUP, aboot the move.......just remember that you are axing advice from a group of people who can't get out of their wetsuits !! HA HA Actually, whatever EROCK tells you to do, I'd go with that. He's a sound human being. Though he questions the existence of pizza plants, but that's, like, the only strike against him.

 

Oh God, I knew you, or some other person, would give me that BS. Dude, my life is just dandy. So don't worry aboot that. I have experienced all that there is concerning human sociality. I'm talking on a deeper more philosophical level here, DPS. So please save the, " Oh you poor, lost lonely soul" stuff. Because that ain't the case, ese. Far from it.

Didn't I say, " I don't mean being selfish....caring only aboot yourself......." Maybe my meaning is too far over your head.......You are commenting on things I specifically said wasn't the case. C'mon on man.

See dude, I'm not a typical person. I know and understand this world, this plane or plain of existence, better than most. You people can all laugh and dismiss that all you want. Things are only serious and life-or-death if you make them that way. Dude, you shouldn't take this world, this life, so seriously. It's nothing really. Just a test and a learning experience for greater things. Also, I can sit in a room alone with my thoughts and be A-ok. Not many can handle solitude for any amount of times, and these people are either weak minded or dependant on social contact much like an addict of ze drugs.

Everything can be controlled by your mind. It's a pretty powerful organ.......soul......object of mysticism.....

I know you are a sophisticated man of the world, but you'll see the big changes in your enlightenment and understanding in the next decade. 30-year-old DPS is a bit different from 20-year-old DPS, right? Ha, just give it another 10 years......

 

This is good advice. Also, if you think there is a chance you ill move to the beach in the future, DON'T buy a house where you are. I was lucky enough to get a great job near the beach, but I still have my house that is 2 hours away. Luckily its rented out, but I still have to worry with it.

It took me several years to find the right job near the beach, so don't get discouraged.
And look at all the variables with family close... if your family isn't there, who is going to watch the kids (assuming you have them later) while you surf in the future? A lesson I learned the hard way is that family and close relationships are more important than waves...

 

Oh, sorry to change the focus of this thread. I will leave you to contemplate the advice of complete, anonymous, internet strangers, concerning major life decisions.

Swellinfo community participation threads - You can't go wrong.

 

this is spot on.... exactly the same when we have to be force fed all those kooky conspiracy theories here by the anonymous tinfoil hat wearing crowd.

 

Rob a bank or two to finance the endless summer....

 

No, DPS, you got me wrong... I was taking a jab at PJB... I think asking for input on location advice/surfing life is appropriate for the forum. I mean only you can make the call on this, but sharing experiences is helpful.

 

My 2 cents. Do it. If you plan to have kids, check out the school districts in the areas you look to make sure their ecceptable in case you plant permanent roots there. It's easy to overlook that when you don't have the kiddies to worry about yet....but you never know when their gonna come

I live near my now aging family (parents/inlaws) and I'm 1hr from the beach....but for a time I lived close enough to hear sets from my bedroom when it was head high or better. I'm happy where I am now, but I'm not sure I would be had I not lived at the beach when it was feasible.

I don't yearn to live at the beach at this point, but it was a damn good experience for me....

 

Hey go for it! Where ever u end up just make sure ya both want the new adventure. After that it will all be good. I'm forced to drive 14 hrs or hit the river in the spring to catch a wave in the Rockies, damn it freaking cold. So don't distress I got it worse lol. We travel a lot. Have fun with it we do.

 

all signs point to grabbing your scrotum with both hands and pulling the trigger. gtfo of there!

 

Hey DP, next good Gulfside swell send a PM my way. Try to get together for some rides. I am betting on something between Gabrielle and Jerry...