Should I Stay or Should I Go?

When clutching your scrotum, you do not want to act in haste. Got to be gentle with the scrotum grabbing. Hey, it's your scrotum.

 

"We"....ahhh solidarity with the swellinfo community. Bravo. Wow, now you're even sucking up to MFitz.

"Nobody is forcing you to read and react to anything we post here." Really, you went with that? Man, that's terrible.

Hey SUP, I wasn't being insultive to you. I wasn't being confrontational. I was talking aboot life......the way I see it. And you got to get all defensive and start the insults. Shoot, my views on life weren't directed specifically at you anyways.

Oh MFitz, good jab. Such a good jab no one even knows who you are jabbing at.

 

Hey man I think you have to do it now. If you don't I think you will probably look back with regret. Don't rush though things will work out if you take your time. I've found that if i want my lady on board with something you have to start slow and plant a seed. It didn't take long for her to realize I'm a nicer person (less of a d___head) when I surf and I was MIA whenever a swell hit and she was stuck home with the kin. One day she asked if I wanted to look at houses near the water and that was it.

BTW I am a happy family guy and wouldn't change a thing but PJB is dropping some jewels on you son. His insight @ simplifying your life, eliminating what you want vs what you need, and realizing most of what we worry for is straight b.s.. good stuff dude! Its pretty scary how much of your recent stuff I've agreed with.

 

Dude, thanks, but I never understand this, " Wow, I can't believe I agree with you" stuff. I have an active imagination and can be zany and loony, but concerning the factual stuff and important stuff, I'm always spot-on. I'm the voice of a generation like Rik and Cliff Richards. I AM THE PEOPLES' POET !! If youse guys would just start listening to me.

Now I'm sure I'll get insulted by SUP again, but I'm sure Freud would agree with me. Who would really ax strangers on an internet site about major life decisions? Really, have you seen some of the questions and things some people say on here?

Now this, and Freud would agree with me, suggests that one is looking for long sought-after attention that they didn't receive from their mother.

Also, it exemplifies a need to belong, and be part of a group, which manifests from subconscious memories of sibling rivalries and not feeling as much a "part" of the nu - cu -lar family as his brother and sister. I'm sure Freud would agree.

Also, and Freud would agree, that SUP is looking for approval. I would not be surprised that this whole "moving" question isn't even on-the-table. It's not even being formally considered in the SUP household.

Please note that SUP never mentioned his dog's feelings aboot moving. The dog should be the foremost thought in SUP's mind, but he is racked with Oedipus Complex.....a whole lot of Oedipus Complex which prevents him from prioritizing things correctly.

 

SUPper it's all good, this thread can stay on track. In a community of typical dysfunction this thread is very high-functioning.

PB&J, you know you're my boy now that we've choked it out and cleared space in the garage for karate and so many other activities. Gotta say though that the SUPmeister needs to be given a break here as he's humbly coming to this tree of trust in a statement to the members that he values their opinions. Freud has some gems and is a keeper but let's not forget the teachings of Carl "Forever" Jung just because of his schism with his mentor Sigmund. I, personally, think its preposterous that Jung disagreed that we are all driven by the nookie, but he's on point with a lot of other things. I think you're taking a perspective on SUPster's plight here similar to what Schopenhaeur would and perhaps Nietzsche would tell him to enact his master morality. Whether or not SUPsmcgee is Oedipal to the core, his lady girl is way Electra. You know this. And if the canine in question is a Hiltonesque 20 pounds or less, it gets no voice. Lucky to be spared its life at that paltry weight. Now a pit/husky/mastif mongrel, I want to hear what that beast's got to say.

All Greek aside, I think it's a good thing to come on here and ask meaning of life questions. After all, we ask each other what board to ride and that's a certain matter of life and death. Family loves us, but even they have hidden agendas for what they want our choices to be. We are all bound by a common thread or two of what we love and this sport cool has a lot more influence on who we are and what we share than sportsmen in other sports (badminton, quidditch, baseball, etc.). Honestly, you're getting third-party, relatively unbiased advice from people with all different helpful perspectives and backgrounds including those that refer to themselves as third-parties (Gruvi). If you think otherwise, go ask family and friends or anyone else dependent or connected to your life and see their lens of opinion guided by how your choice will affect them. CONFLICT OF INTEREST.

Now, the ideal broad to be asking to pack up and move to the coast is Hindu and large but if you roll with her, there's a good chance she's already turned the evolutionary tables and dragged you by your mullet to the beach herself, giving you the ultimatum that if the next 23-footer isn't shredded without fail then that's the end of you.

SUPs.com - sounds like you've carefully considered the variety of thoughtful perspectives you've been given here and started proper communication with your teammate, who happens to be on board or at least open to discussing what's best for the team. Keep it up. Now ditch the raft and start shredding like NJ on a thruster

 

A resounding "Yes". That is sex on waves.

 

There's been some good thought already and I can only refine and share from my experience. First, I've found that enlisting and trusting in divine providence is an important factor, and has worked for me. Rightly said by you, "but it's going to take a bit more than praying, wishing, and wanting, it's going to take a huge effort." I think what is critical is establishing your work situation. I don't know what field your in, or what career path you envision, but it's never a bad idea to continue to develop and embellish your skill set. Along the way, even though I have a degree, I've taken some courses at the local community college or online to open more doors for employment. If you could get a "remote" work situation, that is would be sweet, but is does take discipline.It even says in the good book "Prepare your work outside; get everything ready for yourself in the field, and after that build your house", so establishing your means or provision in the place you will dwell is a priority. So, hopefully you can establish a strategy and plan to move forward to your goals. It's always good to think about what you'd like to be doing in 5 years, 10 years, etc. If you don't, you know the saying "Aim at nothing, you'll be sure to hit it."

I also think that you have a great value and priority in maintaining consensus with your beloved. When the "two became one flesh", that was also a special knitting of mind and spirit, and endeavoring to maintain that unity, although it can be a challenge at times, has great reward. Likewise, if you have good family ties, which it sounds like you do, they too are important to consider and maintain, as they are special.

I had a situation earlier in my life where I had to pick up and move, and it required "letting go of some comforts" and was very challenging, but often doing the right thing is initially the hard thing, and many things did not "add up on paper", but ultimately it worked out. Looking back on the journey, all I can say is "wow" and I would have never imagined how things have worked out, and I know that grace was upon me. The important thing is that I had to make sure my heart and motivations were pure and undivided before I moved forward. I suppose a surfing metaphor might apply such as, "being all in before taking challenging drop." You will figure it out because you are humbly asking the right questions and "searching out the matter", which is wise.

All the best and keep moving forward in Aloha!

 

How do I make "every" thread aboot me? Don't frigggin say bs stuff, cracker. I'm never on more than three threads at a time. And how do I make it aboot myself? How am I different than you? You have never seen a thread started by me axing advice aboot a major decision. Really that insinuation is pure nonsense. Absolute BS. NOT A FACT.........show examples and make sure you don't do the same stuff too.

I am totally relaxed. I don't take this stuff as seriously as some do. You're the one getting all defensive. You started the insults. And you started stuff by taking things out of context. You go on aboot isolation, how my life isn't what I wanted and stuff, yet I never said you had to be isolated in Northern California.........I said you could hang out with loggers and hippy chicks. Oh, by the way, I never had any visions of my life when I was younger so, there is no disappointment.

I'll wait for the examples of how I make every thread aboot myself. And don't use things where I'm obviously messing around. And then, after you find all of the examples, go and look at all of your posts. You might want to rethink this whole thing.

Here's the real deal: YOU can talk smack to people, YOU can be a wise-ass. YOU can start threads about YOURSELF. But I guess others can't especially if they don't agree or support you or your opinions. Jesus man, I don't even start threads anymore.

 

Designer......especially if you say, " Design-na." Same holds true with words like "decline." Or you could say "decline her"

It's close enough.

Chick said she was a top designah
Thought she was cool with her vagina
But she gots HIV so I had to declined her

Opps, I made this post aboot me, once again.....

 

DPS,

Your welcome. You've gave me some good SUS + Carver tips last November, which I'm pleased to report have been "implemented", and now that I'm "feeling it" are working great. The "maneuverability" I've been able to attain has allowed me to make more sections and taken my sessions to new heights. So thanks to you for the encouragement and the others on SI, and in my local lineup.